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Just need advice

sincereTortoise4108 January 22nd, 2021

I love my boyfriend very much and he undoubtedly loves myself and our daughter. For the last 15 months I’ve been a sahm with our daughter and he worked (7 hour shifts 5 days a week) He never did anything on weekend or helped with much besides cat litter once a week (I cook every meal, clean everything, do all the shopping, and care for our daughter). I was forgiving and forgetting even though I was becoming very stressed with him being neglecting and not wanting to connect with us at all. Last month we where informed that his job would be closing from the impact of covid, I was devastated as we are on social assistance already and his job got our food for the month. I told him countless times that he should be looking as much as possible for a job, he checked indeed but really wasn’t looking. I’ve now picked up a job with scentsy so I can still be at home with our daughter but that doesn’t make very much (though I love the job) His final day was the other day he officially has no job and I cried so much because he hasn’t put any effort into finding another! He stayed up until 5am playing video games and slept until 2pm I’m very worried he is just going to continue to live like this and we will be in trouble it so! I’m always believe in sticking together through thick and thin and trying our best but when it comes to our daughter I want what’s best for her. I’m just very confused on what to do at this point in time. I’m thinking of giving him a time limit to find a job or I’ll move out with our daughter but I reall don’t want that to happen

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friendlySkies6250 January 22nd, 2021

@sincereTortoise4108

I'm very sorry to hear your struggles and frustrations. Being a sahm is already a job that should be highly paid.

Have you had a heartfelt conversation with your man? He probably feels a lot of pressure and stress. His gaming may be his way of letting out his anger and frustrations.

If you haven't yet, remind him that you are in this together to make it work and that there is hope if he agrees to work with you.

Your family is in my prayers.