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Is there such a thing as a soulmate and does everyone have the right to get one

fiddy July 25th, 2019

I think I'm supposed to put up a challenge story so here goes. I've been beating myself up all my life in search of 'the one'. like everyone is supposed to have that. I'm feeling like most people stay in marriages and relationships because they don't want to be lonely. and they share laughs and common interests and can tolerate their partner but the deep connection is not there.

I felt like it was my right to find that perfect love but how many people actually find that? Is it mandatory to be happy? Is it your right to have? a must? a show stopper? End all be all? Because I've really put myself through alot trying to find it. And I thinkg I should just be content without it,,,,challenge?!

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WiseDecisions July 25th, 2019

@fiddy There's no scientific evidence that there is such a thing as a "soulmate". When looking for a romantic partner, you should look for someone who fits you very well, but that person will not be perfect. I think I'm really being captain obvious here, but still.

You won't find a partner who is perfect and fits your dream partner 100%. Every single crush you will ever have, will in some ways differ from your dream partner, and thus may have significant imperfections that might be a dealbreaker. But face it, nobody is perfect.

I believe that you can find a partner who is right for you and totally fits you, but he/she won't fit all of your criteria. You will have to accept some negative things about them (even if they are quite significant), you must be willing to compromise. But it's up to you what negative characteristics are acceptable and which ones aren't.

So, I do not believe that there is really such a thing as a "soulmate," but you should still keep looking for the right partner, that one love who fits you without negatively impacting your life. You have no reason to enter relationships with a subpar partner who makes you unhappy.

kitkat34567 July 25th, 2019

@fiddy its possible that there are soulmates but like wise Desisions said most likely not science can't prove that there are but i am sure you can find articles on it and maybe the psycology behind it good luck .

metalwater July 25th, 2019

@fiddy

my viewpoint is a deffinit no.

It is a dream sold by Disney and some others..

Figure out what you need from a relationship and then look/screen for that. And eventually show the truth to the other person so they can screen also. The person has to "Feel" good to you, as well as pass your check list. If they "Feel" good but don't pass the list, next them no matter how good they Feel. If they don't feel good, one of you will cheet later and that will just be the worst for you. If they don't pass the check list then you will have logistical problems such as not enough money or other tactical problems. Make sure that the check list is resonable, if years go by you might adjust the check list some.. Don't ever, ever, ever skip the feel good part in favor of the check list.

If your a lady, make sure they feel good at least 3.5 weeks out of every month. If your a guy, next them as soon as they ever disrespect you or give one chance.. but only one. I don't mean that guys should ever be mean, there is no place for disrespect no mater how great they are.

BTW: I really love the idea of soalmate. It just feels so perfect.

Zulegirl July 25th, 2019

@fiddy

You have a right to be loved. Remember that!

peacefulforest75 July 26th, 2019

@fiddy

I guess I believe not so much in a soulmate, but that some people are able to make a deep connection easier than others. This is the real reason I'm leaving my husband, because I don't have that connection with him, he's not willing to put in the work to develop one, and I know I'll be unhappy trying to fill that void in other ways (I've tried for years with everything short of cheating on him). I haven't even moved out yet, and already I feel like a huge weight is lifted.

stressBear July 28th, 2019

@fiddy "Is there such a thing as a soulmate and does everyone have the right to get one?" NO, and NO!

I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but the idea that everyone has just one person out of the billions of people on this planet who is uniquely "their soulmate" is pure fiction. It sells a lot of books and movies, but it has no basis in reality and causes a great deal of unnecessary pain, and the occasional tragedy. But the idea that you have a "right" to one of these mythical beings is even worse. The fact is that there are hundreds if not thousands of people you could form a deep connection with, and if you're lucky you may meet a few of them. When you do, you have to remember that you have no "right" to their affection. Maybe they'll like you, and maybe they won't. They don't owe you anything, no matter how much you want it.