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Yui00 December 19th, 2016

Why is it difficult for girl like me to say I like this guy? Help me please. I know I'm a little naive when it comes to this. I saw him on tinder and we matched. I told him if he's not anymore interested please unmatch me (cause I really like him but doesn't reply turn out not always online. Weeh?) He asked for my number and I was happy he did. We just had a casual conversation. And after a day, he's gone. Jeez why boys are like that? I tried to look for other guys but he's still the one I'm thinking about even its obvious he didn't like me huhu... Why asked for my number if he's not interested to me? Sorry I'm just really frustrated. Tell me honestly so I can move on from this shit.

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WildUnknown December 30th, 2016

@Yui00

Online dating is a minefield. Generally everything online; with social media these days, people feel like they can act in ways they wouldn't in real life. Maybe to some peope, the interaction and whatnot just doesn't feel very real, and it's easy for them to ghost. A lot of the time, with apps like tinder, people are just swiping through automatically and in large batches, and end up with a lot of right swipes and a lot of matches. Social media and apps like that have made it easy to make basically a menu out of people, and you can just pick and choose which one is the best or easiest and so on. While some peopel might take a match seriously and try to actually talk and make something out of it,for others, you may be just one match out of a 100 they're talking to. Asking for a number is like, just in case. Just in case there's nothing better to do, he could call you, for example. And if he is just a regular internet douche and is playing around, it has had probably the exact effect he wanted - you're thinking about him and getting worked up and all. He probably isn't at all, but he knows he can call you and likely get a response.

That being said, obviously not all online daters are jerks, (I married my first Tinder match, lol), but we have to face the inevitable and many disappointments and trolls out there.