I just don't know...
How do I cope with someone changing? I don't want to ask because were really only friends even if we both said it felt more than just a friendship. He apologized for pushing me away when he was going through things, but things are just not the same. And I get it, but it gives me anxiety not knowing what's going on. In past relationships, my gut has told me to run and I did not listen. Right now my gut just doesn't know what to do.
@Lovesmile23
Your gut always knows. Listen to it carefully.
You're in the middle trying to find out his feelings. But what about your feelings? See what you feel what you think, not what he feels.
It's so frustrating not knowing his exact feelings I know I've been there and it sucks. But the biggest role in your lif eis you and you are deciding everything. Sometimes it doesn't matter what other people feel or do. If you think you feel more than friends then go for it an risk it all. You'll never know just by assuming, you're wasting your time. Just like I did. End it before it ends. Risk it because it's better knowing something rather than waiting. I don't know. Maybe my opinion sucks. Who knows. But that's the quicker way to know. It may benefit you or not. Depends on how he responds.
Good luck.
Maybe he still has the best intentions, but he still went through a change that makes it harder if not impossible for you to get back to how it was. If what you have now is not what you want, the first thing to do is to talk about it with him, make sure you let each other know where are you standing now, what you need, how you feel. If you realize you're just not compatible anymore, or if he reassures you that you are but you feel like you really aren't, it's ok to let it go. You may still care for each other and have the best intentions, but it's not enough to make things better if you've become incompatible. So it's all about checking out if you really are, and taking the decision that is best for both.
@Aayla in a very recent past situation, I decided to check in and ask what was going on. In that occasion, that other person told me we were ok and lied about things. I don't want the same thing to happen again.
@Lovesmile23 unfortunately we never have a way to be 100% about someone lying, but at least trying to have the conversation can give you a chance to listen to what they have to say about it, and try to understand if they're saying it honestly or not. You know him better, maybe you'll be able to detect signals of whether he's being honest or not. And if you don't, you can try to follow your instinct, logic, whatever speaks to you louder, but at least you can say you tried!
