How much should someone make compromises in their relationship?

@PurpleNina Living with someone can really show you who they really are and at the same time, living with a guy under someone elses roof is even harder. If what you mean by he wont do anything for himself is that he won't make any effort to better your lives or provide for himself or you then that is definitely not something to ignore. Take it from the girl that married the lazy guy, you may can motivate him for awhile but after a couple years of feeling like your dragging him through life with you it is going to get old. You can't fix someone else and he probably will never change, if he does as bad as I hate to say it, it probably won't be for you. This truely sounds like you are just starting to see reasons that the two of you aren't compatible and if thats it then there's nothing wrong with that, just means your not meant to be. Sometimes people can be right for you at one stage of your life and not in the next. If your not happy and the issues you have with him are his habits and his lack of motivation then the chances of that changing are slim to none. Best Wishes!

@PurpleNina I totally know how you feel. I know what making an endless compromises feels like as I've just been in a relationship like that and am still a little bit recovering from the breakup. My story goes like this:

When I met him he seemed perfect for me and I am really a person who doesn't fall in love easily. He said all the things I needed to hear at that time. And even though I am extremely rational person, I didn't mind that everything moved extremely fast. He told me he works a lot, everyday at least 9 hours in company and then even more hours at home and at first I didn't mind as I do a lot of stuff for work myself and I also really enjoy my job. So naturally we almost skipped the dating phase and after a couple of months started a serious relationship and everything was perfect. Of course it still seemed a little bit fast for me but I said "what the hell, he's the one". In just two months of relationship he suggested to start our life together, find our own apartment and move in together. I was reluctant at first but soon I agreed to do this. We started searching for appartment, did a few appointments with potentional landlords but nothing was suitable for us. In the mean time I lived half of my time at his place and half of my time at my parent's house, where I got a separate apartment. But my point here is, during that time I became queen of compromises. All my time was tailored on his needs. He didn't have time to do anything but work, I was ok with it. He was too tired for sex, I was ok with it. He had a couple of hours of free time when I didn't have time, I adjusted my schedule just to serve his needs. Then a couple of months later since we started our arragement he anounced he is going to see his friends (that are very far away) for a week on some big party festival. I didn't like it but I kept quiet as I felt sorry for him because he is so far from his friends. So in that week that he went there he didn't sent me one single text so I didn't even know if he's ok. But I found an excuse again: he probably didn't have internet. But when he came back I felt some anger inside me and felt like soon I will need to talk to him about. More because when I calculated his vacation days and his plans for visiting friends, I figured out he will spend more time with friends more than 7 000 km away, then with me. And then the D-day approached just the next morning. We woke up and he informed me that he is under so much pressure I can't sleep at his place anylonger because I magically just started "invading his privacy ", "deconcentrating him" and "wants to sleep alone in his own bed". I was shocked he said something like that as I really never ever touched any of his stuff and always just quietly read my books while he was working. So this is the guy who wanted to move in with me and just push me away when he's under pressure. Then I finally decided to talk to him. I told him I was angry at him and we will talk when I cool my head off, because I really don't want to be rude. He agreed and wanted me to assure him we will talk. So on the evening the same day I try to messege him and find out I'm blocked. Try to call him, and I'm blocked. Try to contaact him on fb and insta and I am also blocked there. So I sent him an email. It was not rude and it was not angry or mean. It was just deeply disapointed email. Later I found out he blocked my email too. And yes, I was heartbroken because to me he was a perfect man that I deeply loved and wanted to grow old with. And yes I still think of him and am still sad it ended that way, more because I wasn't worth to him even a proper goodbye and conclusion.

But my point here is: if I wouldn't compromised on so many things I would find out sooner he doesn't know how to deal with conflicts and he would see I am not ok with all this sh*t. So please be good to yourself and talk to your boyfriend what bothers you and try to work it out. Hopefully he is not the same jerk mine was and you will work everything out, but if not really don't put yourself through the misery of endless compromises. Some compromises are always neccessary for a happy relationship but they need to be done by both of you.