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Anybody actually ended up with their best friend in the end?
Relationship Stress / by Carma7710
Last post
 May 31st, 2019
...See more I'm officially at a decade of on and off with mine and everything is a complete mess. I just wonder if it ever actually worked out for anyone else?
When To Throw Away A Decade Of Friendship, HELP!
Relationship Stress / by Carma7710
Last post
 May 30th, 2019
...See more In 2007 Jeremy might as well have come riding into my life on a white horse with a cape. I was in an abusive relationship with his cousin and he became the best friend I had ever had, he fixed everything, from busting his cousins lip to repairing my cars. His house was my second home. We were the best of friends with every benefit imaginable and he'd do anything in the world for me, anything that is except make me officially his. For 6 years we were inseparable and sometimes we were romantic and sometimes we weren't but whatever was happening one thing was for sure, we were each others. I got tired of waiting for a commitment so I dated a couple guys but we were still bff's through it all and he never dated anyone else. He finally met someone else and immediately almost was telling her he loved her and it devastated me but it didn't last long. I thought I was finally going to have my chance and I was going to finally admit how I felt but then he met "Felicia". Well that would have been short lived but about 2 months into that he told me one night he was going to break up with her and the next day he found out she was pregnant. He was ready to be with me and then boom, baby. So fast forward his daughter is now 6 and we were still very close in the beginning but he moved to Texas for awhile and Felicia was instantly threatened by our friendship so we went a few years without much contact. About a year and a half ago he randomly started coming back to my house where I live with my now husband. Then he started talking about us ending up together and ya'll I'm not a home wrecker or a cheater but this wasn't just any guy, my husband had cheated on me and my marriage was already dead, I was finally looking at my dreams come true even if it was wrong and his home hadn't been happy from the start, he just thinks he would do his daughter some great injustice by leaving her mother so they fight in front of her instead. He pulled me all the way back in, I was so in love and he said he wanted to be with me and then he just ghosted me which is something he had never done to me before. But now, in the last year and a half he has done that to me 5 times total. Sometimes the "Goodmorning beautiful"s and constant text would last a few months, sometimes a few weeks but each time when it stops, he completely just ignores me. When I comfront him, he says he just got busy, lost his phone, trying to avoid drama with Felicia but that he wouldn't ignore me and hes sorry but then he does it again. Ya'll hes not using me for sex cause in the last year and a half of this emotional torment we have only had sex once. I would say I should stop letting him do this but we've been friends a decade and he says he has feelings for me we just can't do anything about that right now yet now I keep feeling used and hurt. Its like he makes me feel as bad now as he use to make me feel good but our connection and chemistry is undeniable. He opens up to me in ways he wouldn't open up to anyone else but sometimes it feels like he treats me like a stranger. I'm not sure if hes ever known exactly how I felt years ago and I'm not sure if theres any point in going there now. I've tried to tell him his actions hurt me but I don't think he really understands what I mean, what should I do? Should I throw it away or hold on? I love this man and I don't want to throw away a friendship that we have agreed we don't want to ruin but when he ghost me I always end up losing my cool and then I always get a response but I don't think he takes me seriously cause as soon as he says sorry, I never mention it again. Any advice at all would be great and if your still reading, God Bless You! lol Thank You!!
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