Forgiveness
It's always difficult if you're feeling low and your partner does something that you feel betrays you, I know I do.
My question is that - have your partners ever done something that you feel betrayed over yet have forgiven? It can be anything simple and small to something big and unforgettable; I'm curious as to what people have forgiven in relationships and how they managed to do so.
@Shilpa
@Sophiejay
Probably getting over my partner cheating on me was the greates act of forgiveness coming from my part. The forgiveness itself got easier when I managed to comprehend the way he was thinking and feeling although I knew it was wrong. The trust issues that came with that were the real problem and they pretty much persisted the whole time.. it's hard to really completely get over something like that.
@cloudTraveler
Im very sorry that that happened, it is awful. Despite knowing how they were feeling before doing it, did they feel like you were inaccessible to talk to about it before doing something like that? I'm sorry to pry I'm just working through s couple of things and other stories and issues people have worked through are helping.
@cloudTraveler I just found out that my girlfriend of 2 years cheated on me a couple days ago. I don't know how I'm ever going to forgive her or trust her ever again. I don't even know if I can ever be intimate with her ever again.
@Sophiejay
I forgave my ex for cheating on me not once or twice but for years, at last things came to an end, and yeah I'm happy for it to end too, I also forgave my ex for abusing me in public, and on internet.
I also forgave my ex for reuining my career.
Now that I'm trying to fix my life, at times thinking about that hurts me a lot but I hope somedays I will be strong :)
Let's forgive people, I know it's very difficult to do that, but trust me the best revenge to a person who played with our emotion could be to forgive them,
I forgave my ex for cheating on me not once or twice but for years, at last things came to an end, and yeah I'm happy for it to end too, I also forgave my ex for abusing me in public, and on internet.
I also forgave my ex for reuining my career.
Now that I'm trying to fix my life, at times thinking about that hurts me a lot but I hope somedays I will be strong :)
I know a lot of you would have gone through a lot,
Let's share it in here, and appreciate ourselves for a second on what we have overcome! :)
@Sophiejay There was one time I was having a pretty bad day which turned worse when while talking to a friend of mine I heard that my boyfriend had been having sucidal thoughts. I had no idea about this and since we are in a long distance relationship, effective coomunication in our relationship is a very important aspect.
I asked the details from my friend and got to know whole of our friend circle knew this, especially my best friend. She has been the one to whom my boyfriend had come and told he wanted to kill himself at times. She had told the other friends in our squad and all of them, including my boyfriend had agreed not to let me know since they thought I would get really worried living so far away from them
This really hurt me that all my friends, my best friend and my boyfriend hid something so important from me. I had the right to know this and my boyfriend spoke to my best friend but not to me. Moreover, he didn't tell me later.
@Sophiejay - Interesting question Sophie. It got me thinking. For starters I am the one creating the bigger issues, so mostly it's about him forgiving me. Ans as for him - he makes mistakes like not replying back and not calling inspite of saying that he will, tends to be so involved with himself that forgets about me at times - he'll say I'm exaggerating if he ever reads this. But yeah there are times when I feel unloved and I end up fighting really bad.
I don't really think I will ever truly forgive him for these small things because somehow I haven't been able to communicate the issues to him and even when I did I got a reply which was about personal space and about the two of us having to find our own thing to do to keep ourselves happy. Kinda makes me sad and angry because there are times when I miss him and want to talk to him. But he's the best for me in every other way - and this is the only area where we have issues otherwise we've never any other fights.
I just need to find my own thing to do I guess. Help me, will ya, Sophie? How do you keep yourself busy and get him out of your head?
And I want to know about how you forgive your partner - the dynamics of it.
@shilpa
I really identified with what you said, because I do struggle with that at times.
I am very lucky that my partner and I don't really have a 'lot' of issues and arguments. His parents cause arguments and tension between us often, but the only time I've ever felt really hurt was when he was supposed to come up for Christmas last year, we'd spoken about it for months and I'd gotten really excited. It's nothing major in the grand scheme compared to others, but I was so let down and hurt when one day he just wasn't coming anymore. I'd gotten my hopes up and it's happened a few times, although I know he's under a lot of stress and doesn't mean to, he's always apologetic.
In the beginning of our relationship I wanted to talk to him constantly, it was a need that I just couldn't get rid of, I loved and adored him (I still do of course) and I wanted to talk all the time. He's an engineer so I had to quickly adjust to the strange work shifts he was on, and the really long hours. There isn't a way to deal with it really, distracting yourself is key, remembering that there are things you enjoy and did enjoy before him are key. Just because he's not there doesn't mean you should monopolise your time by messaging him - do things for you. Plus, if you're distracting yourself it makes the time go quicker in between conversations!
@Sophiejay - Hugs Sophie really tight 
you make things so relateable !
Being in a Ldr and having hopes of meeting your partner and then plans getting cancelled can really hurt so much.
But I really hope you both get to meet very soon.
And yes you are right, I have to again start doing whatever it was that I did before he was a part of my life. I'll try, though it's kinda hard. I don't understand why it's always women who miss their partners so much 
@shilpa
It always makes it worth it when you meet, I think it might just be because our hormones are slightly different, when the love hormone is higher we react different maybe? I'm not sure, but it's a lovely feeling when you're together :)
@Sophiejay - Yes you are right - serotonin and oxytocin - they must be making it feel so wonderful. Pray for me as well Sophie so that I may pass through this LDR test.
forGIVE to forGET...
The only way to life your life, you need to give something to get in return,
Life for yourself, keep walking in your life, If you notice anyone trying put you down just look at them and smile back and say
"I FORGIVE YOU"
And forget about everything and keep walking on,
Life has nothing to do with them, when you stop noticing they will stop bothering you.
Live your life to enhance yourself, and help the one in need, don't care about what people talk about you,
Be faithful to the ones around you, it's more than enough to SURVIVE!
@Sophiejay
My boyfriend has lied to me about a few things in the past and had his own "reasoning" for it. Even though that's relatively small and they weren't lies about cheating or another girl, it still felt like a betrayal to me. Lieing is something that I can not stand and in a relationship you're supposed to feel comfortable enough to be able to tell each other the truth, regardless of the situation. I forgave him about those lies for numerous reasons but the most important being that I understood why he thought he should. I realized that my behavior made him feel like he couldn't be honest with me. That didn't excuse him in any way but I was able to put things in perspective and realize something about myself as well. That's just my personal situation. Forgiveness is hard to give sometimes, but sometimes, it's worth it.
@Sophiejay Well... his brother who I thought was my "partner in crime" admitted to his brother (whom I am dating) some things that he shouldnt have, some things that I only told him and noone else and told him that it is a thing between just us. Well him telling his brother resulted in me almost loosing the best person in my life... I had such a bad time when he told me how hurt he was and all, him telling me he would leave me etc. I am traumatised and am now so scared of him leaving and at every little sign that he might i freak out. I dont know if I can ever forgive my friend for what he did... This anxiety is something I just can not shake off