Communication - a missing puzzle in our marriage
Hi. Im terrified of posting. But Im sad and need let it out. I have a loving husband and beautiful boy. My marriage has had its ups and down. I hate not resolving fights and my husband prefers sleeping over it. Weve spoken; he knows. I want to talk to him. Tell him about my day, my ups and downs. But he doesnt make time for me. He believes that mumbling a few sentences equals a conversation. I feel so bottled and so lonely. I used to be so talkative and light before marriage. years later, I have become insecure, scared, lonely and alone with my thoughts. I move on by focusing from one task to the next. But it catches up with me. I feel anger, hurt, depressed and stressed. Ive become mentally weak and constantly feeling the need to run away. I love my husband and son. But I wonder if this is all my life is about.
@Freefall34
Has your communication with him always been this way, or have things changed over time? Is he happy with your relationship, or is he longing for a deeper connection too but unsure about being vulnerable with you?
Will he see a counselor with you to help work through these questions and developing better communication and connection?
IMO, you need to have healthy communication and connection to have a healthy marriage. I left mine because of a lack of it, and my husband's refusal to change. The transition is hard, and it's sad to give up on our relationship, but I feel lighter, happier, and more myself than I have in years. I truly hope you can work things out with him, but you both really need to make it a priority for this to happen.
