Been cheated on but how do I answer this... Question is at end of post.
I was cheated on.
I have been cheated before in the past but with his particular guy I learned to re-trust and I did and it wasn't that I was angry I was just shocked and disappointed because I thought we were on the same page. It's also made me feel like I'm not enough. And for the first time last night I was afraid to go to sleep because I kept thinking what will and does he do in the night while I am sleep of course it's how it all happened I was sleep. So I gave it to god and just slept. But I'm hurt. The way he cheated is hurtful but the degree of cheating wasn't like severe. Because of that I don't know if I should break up with him or let the pain heal because he's been a better love than I've had in so long and because of that am I about to lose what I wanted all along was he really the one... that's what's stopping me.
How do you know when it's time to leave a relationship when you don't know if your possibly losing the best thing that's ever happened to you. Yes, you can also move on but is it a love well lost if no one else in the future can understand you or love you the way that one meaningful person did? How do you know when enough is enough for all the right reasons? Some people may not want to get back together after a break. Some believe that one time is one time. I'm tipically that person but mostly because I've been hurt but this is very different. I've been with him longer and loved him longer almost 2 years.
@Muffins646 You can't have a relationship without trust and honesty. That's the most important thing. You should talk to him about the struggle your having. Be sure to remain calm and not get upset. The real questions are does he deserve to regain your trust? Are you able to trust him again? Can he be honest with you? All three of those need to be yes for me to really say you should keep trying. Now it will take time and work, but those need to be yes.
But if that's not the case, just know there is not just one person for everyone. Logically people are compatible with a multitude of people. So, even if this relationship ends, just focus on you and being healthy and happy. Then someone will come along.
@Muffins646 You're so much stronger than you think. I'm sorry you're going through this especially because it's a painful and very emotionally traumatic thing to go through. But I think it's sad that you've lost hope for yourself, that you're afraid you might not find someone who treats you like you're the best thing that's ever happened to them! Wouldn't it be worth the risk to find someone who made you smile everyday, who made you feel safe, who just made your world better in ways you didn't even realize someone could? I can't give you an answer as far as whether or not you should walk away from the guy who cheated on you. But I will say that if you don't think you'll ever find someone who could make you happy, think again. It's never too late to find love. If you decide to give your guy another chance, just be sure it's because you really love him and want to be with him and not because you've given up on yourself! Have hope for yourself, that you have within you amazing characteristics and that you have so much to offer for the right someone.