bothered
Im bothered that my partner watched porn prior to seeing me. I feel undesired. I feel like an object. Am i insane.
@ambitiousbeach333
No, you're definitely not insane. It's understandable to feel that way.
Totally it is just a viewpoint on the situation. Does not mean that she is insane. The idea here is no to let someone else influence your thi king too much especially if it is negative.
@ambitiousbeach333
Clearly he doesn't feel strongly towards you. You have every right to feel this way although you may want to reconsider your relationship with him
ZJK
I advise you to talk to your partner about how you are feeling. It's not an otherworldly thing, it's actually something valid to feel. Communicate those feelings, and either set boundaries or reconsider the relationship.
Best of luck, hope you can get through this!
I have similar problem with my husband who watches porn almost every day. Our sexual life is very good, but still his pc is full with porn. It makes me cry and overthink things. Whenever i get to know that he watches porn, i feel like i want to disconnect from him and just be alone because it hurts me a lot.
i tried to speak with him about it, and he just said that it is just porn and thats it.
im not convinced.
I know some couples watch porn together. It is a way to normalize it in a relationship. As long as the porn is not completely change your viewpoint on sex. My boyfriend loves watching porn all the time I try my best to ignore and just let him be a guy. Thing is sometimes things get out of hand and he wants to start doing what he sees online.
I think your partner is trying to stimulate his desires as a way to feel hyped about his sexual feelings. Most men objectify women, so this is normal for most men. I have felt objectified before so I know the feeling. I have had guys looking at me up and down constantly like i am a dessert they can eat. I think women need to be more patient with men and be more understanding and comfortable with their own partners sexual personalities.