Support for issues relating to problems in experiencing sexual pleasure
Hi there fellow members and/or listeners!.
As you can see by the title of this forum, I want to have a discussion regarding the accessibility of resources and support for individuals who face issues in experiencing sexual pleasure, which in turn affects their mental health. Although 7 Cups has a multitude of resoures that one can access, in relation to the type emotional support you feel you need, I feel that more can be created for those who face emotional distress due to not being able to experiencing sexual pleasure. Not being able to experience sexual pleasure can defined and be attributed to many things, but for example, lack of libido and erectyle dysfunction are one of the few examples that are related to this.
My question for the members who might be dealing with such issues, and for fellow listeners who might want to add their imput, is do you think/feel that you have the necessary access and resources to aid you getting the adequate emotional support?
@EmpatheticEars94
I think the short answer to your question is that there should be a training guide that helps our Listeners learn about the various issues that you've highlighted. Without training and providing Listeners with knowledge and resources, how can we operate as a support site to ensure that those members receive the kind of support that they need?
I think it's time to stop shying away from sexual-based education and discussions, out of fear that its for illicit purposes because there are many people who visit 7 Cups looking for such support without nefarious intentions or ulterior motives. There is a high percentage of members who suffer, literally suffer, from these conditions without any sense of help and they've typically turned away from most Listeners because of the topics nature.
Hopefully, your post can begin a change within the community to support these individuals versus shunning or turning a blind eye to those issues.
@Sventek Thank you for your inout on this topic :) I fully agree with the statements you made. I think we need to create an evironment in which this "taboo" is deconstructed, so that we may have open discussions about matters relating to sex and sexuality. Many individuals who's mental health is affected by them not being able to partially or completely experience sexual pleasure, truly desires to have such experiences. They might feel that they might not have successful relationships because of such issues, that they might not be able to truly experience love, due to sex being such an intregal part of maintaining inimacy in relationships.
Although the individual training of listeners regarding the provision of emotional support to those struggeling with their sexual health is important, and should definitely be implemented, there should also be a focus on establishing a community specifically for those dealing with poor mental health which is affected by sexual disorders, for example. The creation of resources, groups, and a community for such members will enable them to connect with others and share their stories, and help to break stigmas surrounding their issues. Moreover, to create and maintain a warm and welcoming environment where they won't feel ashamed to open up and share their pain with others. It is important that the discussions on such issues are not primarily focused on the medical aspects, which is often the case, but to shift the focus on the current emotional distress these members are facing, and providing them with the means of ease their sense of loneliness that they might experience due to this issue not being openly discussed .
I am currently dating and I do like him a lot. We have our differences but we are trying to make it work. I am not as active as he is. He likes to live a healthy lifestyle and work out everyday. While i like to lounge around and work out on my own pace. I dont eat as healthy as he is. I was being flirty and initiating intimacy but he said that i should put my energy to working out instead of intimacy. He said he find someone physically active attractive and I remind him of his mom because of my fats on my tummy. After that comment, i felt like my self esteem plumet. He said if i dont like the feedback, i shouldnt ask him what he find attractive. I cried because of his comment, he keep insisting i should call him a horrible person. But im not like that. I just want a sincere apology from him and an emotional support.
@perfectlyimperfect92
Its hard when your partner sees you in a different light. I know its tough, but are you happy with how you look? Thats all that matters.
@Mwhet920
I am, when i look in the mirror, im happy on what i see. Im not like those instagram models with super fit bodies but im doing what i can. I get a lot of compliments from others, but what i dont understand is why the guy that i like doesnt see me that way. It made me question myself, if there is something wrong with me? why others find me attractive but not him. Am i not good enough? Sorry for ranting. I have no one to talk to :(
@perfectlyimperfect92
It isnt you. Ive been in a similar situation with a woman. Asking herself the same questions you are. Maybe hes going through some shit. Or maybe hes just an ass. But if he cant accept you the way you are than thats a problem.
@Mwhet920
He said he wants to be fit together, even asked me if he were to gain weight and neglect on his look, if i would mind it. I said i wouldnt mind it. At the end of the day, its the person's decision on how they look after themselves. And not about how you should work out because of someone. I am doing it for myself, but its not good enough. I just want to be love.
@perfectlyimperfect92
Also i know how it feels to feel like you have no one to rely on. Im right there with you.
@Mwhet920
Thank you so much
@perfectlyimperfect92
Im here to talk if ya need it. Youre very welcome!