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Should I tell anyone else?

ggb2816 May 17th, 2017

Hi, my name is GG and I live with my fiancé. Now here's the kicker. I'm into DDLG.

For those who don't know, DDLG stands for Daddy Dom Little Girl. Obviously I'm the Little. DDLG falls under the category of BDSM. If you want more info just Google it.

Anyway, as you might have guessed, my Fiancé is the Dom. Oh and I should also mention that I'm Bisexual. So because of this we have talked about having a three some and such. But I'm worried about bring another into this relationship because of my DDLG life.

I haven't told many people but the ones I have, gave negative responses (besides my fiancé ) I've told my fiancé about my worries but he says everything will work out fine. We haven't brought in another person yet, but the fear of ridicule is very heavy on my mind.

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bunnypants May 17th, 2017

@ggb2816ou what do you mean obv, there is such a thing as genderswap! xP

anyway, i've found that most people don't "get"/approve of it... except the ones who do.

some of my best friends are littles, too :3

so idk, keep it a secret from anyone who doesn't need to know or live yr life right out in the open or anything in between.

but there are people out there

i mean wut i no nuffins 'bout dis topic xD

Sventek June 20th, 2017

@ggb2816

The sex life that you share with your fiance is for the both of you to share with one another and isn't anyone else's business, period. There isn't a need to tell friends, family, or others about what you both do behind closed doors because there is zero need for their acceptance of your lifestyle, BDSM or not. Your struggle to confide in others and their ridicule is something that is very common in the BDSM community, so much that many feel that they should just keep it inner circle with those that they know are open minded enough to handle such information. Majority of people will simply not understand your lifestyle and it is actually ok that they do not.

Sharing your partner with another is another story entirely. First, make sure that your relationship is solid before you involve another person. This means that open communication is necessary before, during, and after. Expectations should be established and there must be unbreakable rules... with some rules that are flexible as long as the both of you agree together (privately - not in front of the other person).

Involving a third person means that they will likely see some aspects of your lifestyle with your partner. This means that selection of the third person needs to be done very carefully well before anything happens. If you think finding your fiance was hard - try finding a suitable third. It's not as easy as just swiping on Tinder or another service. Threesomes can be very taxing on a relationship so become fully aware of what might change between you once this is introduced.

Something you and your fiance may consider... is holding back with the Little situation while engaging with a third - at least at first. Engaging means that you all meet up with zero expectations and nothing happening for at least the first few meet-ups. It's a delicate situation with lots of factors involved so tread lightly and smartly.

And lastly, worry less about what other people's opinions are of you and your relationship. You will turn blue trying to explain to people and win people's hearts to your situation that simply cannot understand or are unwilling to understand anything outside their "perfect" bubble. Everyone has an opinion and as you go through life - everyone is willing to provide it regardless if you want to hear it or not. Someone's opinion of you does not mean it's your reality and it certainly doesn't mean they are immediately right.

Good luck and happy hunting!