Sex education resources for a 21 year old?
Hey guys,
I've posted to this community before, but this is another subject.
I've never had sex before. I've also never been kissed, or been in a relationship. I was never interested in dating while i was in middle or high school, due to some personal problems I was in denial about and trying to fix them.
I never really recieved a sex education in school. we had a "unit" in health, but all it was was us talking about STDs and that sort of thing. They didn't really teach us anything useful or applicable.
That being said, I would like to learn more about sex and sexual relationships. It's a subject I'm fairly ignorant on, and I've never given it much thought. I haven't met anyone in my life in which I feel like I could share that kind of intimacy with, but at the very least, it wouldn't hurt to learn.
Does anyone have any suggestions on resources for sex education for someone my age? I'd appreciate any help.
@Nick8876 - Great question! I'm not sure I know of specific resources off hand, but if I think of any, I will absolutely share them. One thing that might help is doing some research on sex education to see if there are any online modules intended for students (meaning they should be more educational and not accidentally push you into porn) and check them out. If you have specific questions, they may be able to be answered here, as well. Sometimes narrowing your topic slightly can make it easier to find what you're looking for.
Good luck!
Look for a professional Sex Coach in your area!, It's a fairly new profession (been around for 20ish years) but these people are trained to give their clients everything from sex safety advice to tips on having a better sex life. And they will meet with you either in person or via skype (if you're more comfortable with that)
@Nick8876, you're not alone! It's great that you continue to educate yourself - it's such a shame that the educational system so often fails to educate on the most important things. Proud that you're staying proactive!
I can recommend the Sexplanations as a really great resource. It's a youtube channel hosted by a legitimate doctor who is not only smart, but also quite friendly and funny. She covers loads and loads of various topics, so you can find comprehensive knowledge on all of the sex-related things - anatomy, tools, activities, relationships, etc. And what I love most about that channel is that it's absolutely shame-free. There is no such thing as a wrong question, because sharing knowledge is the goal itself. Highly recommending it.
Hope that helps ^^ Best wishes!
@Nick8876
I never dated at all in high school, so don't worry, you're not the only one. I recommend Scarleteen, and I would also say Laci Green's sex ed youtube channel. She's a little bit controversial (some people don't like her because she did make some offensive comments in her earlier videos) but overall I think her videos are helpful and she's funny and puts you at ease.
Good question! Don't feel like you're alone or anything negative for not having sex/relationships in high school. I'm also in my early 20s and fairly new to those things, as are plenty of other people our age who are too.
I love scarleteen for sex/sexuality education! Don't be deterred by the name, it's for teens and young adults and they cover a lot of basics about sex Ed, anatomy, sexualities, healthy relationships, relationships and mental health, etc. I see that people on here have also mentioned sexplanations and laci green on YouTube. While I've never watched either of those channels personally, I've heard great things about both of them! Also, if you have questions about healthy vs unhealthy relationships, loveisrespect is a great website!
There are some great recommendations on this thread already, but I'd like to add Bedsider as another. They even have a Guy's Guide that covers everything from communication to STIs to birth control. But don't feel limited to that section!
You can also check out the San Francisco Sex Information website where you can ask questions phone or email. They are free, confidential, nonjudgemental, and most importantly, accurate. They also have a pretty in-depth resource list for different topics.
@Nick8876 you are not alone. I am currently on the search for the same exact resources to help educate my 20 y/o bonus daughter. She knows nothing. Never even had any kind of conversation with a boy before. I have no idea what im doing.
