Poor sense of sexual identity
As a teenager I came to believe that sex made you an adult and proved you were worthy of being loved.
This belief is still with me.
In my 20s as a socially awkward, anxious autistic guy I learned that "creepy" was the worst thing you could possibly be.
I'm 33 now. Never managed to overcome either of these things. I still feel too weird to ask women out, but now it's compounded by being too old and still a virgin and therefore not even a real man.
I don't know what I have to give in a relationship but that's a moot point because I've no chance to learn.
I'm terrified this makes me an incel. I don't want to be a terrible person.
It's time to replace your belief of what a man is.
Being autistic makes it harder to socialize, that's okay!
A romantic connection should never be expected when it "should" happen, that goes for a sexual one as well.
What to give in a relationship is a safe space.
Continue growing your character, it is the most attractive thing you could ever do.
I'm here : ) < 3
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@modestWriter18
It is never too late to to change our perspective....being an adult and worthy of love does not need sex.
Love is a connection that transcends other issues..... a true connection that takes time and IMO too many people do not give it the time it needs....
they think it is instant and has to happen by x age or has to relate to sex.... it doesn't. People try so hard to find ASAP they are willing to mistake like or lust as Love, then it is short lived and over ending up as lonely as you might feel too.
