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Hey guys/girls, I was thinking about masturbation a lot lately, and I was wondering mostly about how everyone else views/utlilizes it. This is kinda just a general discussion I want to have, like how you learned, how and why we do it, how it's evolved as we've grown older, and even just anything interesting you have to add.
@ivoryZebra1269
I learnt about sex when i was about 6 years old when i watched a pornovideo with a friend. Ive watched alot of porn since i was in fifth grade and masturbated frequently. I have tried and explored most of what is down there, using ice cubes and different objects in general to see what pleasure that would cause. Im now 15 btw. One time (around 13 years old) i found my moms dildos and vibrators and after washing them thouroughly i probably used them more than my mom ever did. The vibrators are now thrown away lol
@Smallsprout
I figure I should put some of my experience out there, since I asked the question. I started masturbating when I was in the 5th grade (I'm a male, by the way, 17 now), I knew how males masturbated because of media and everything. I actually just got caught off guard by a sex game on Newgrounds and decided to try out touching myself (isn't Newgrounds great?). By the time I reached the 6th grade, I made a habit to masturbate at least once a day. I actually was late to school a few times because I had to walk. When I was in middle school I started watching porn, and eventually I even got to masturbate side by side with my best friend (which is probably the best experience I've had with masturbation, I recommend it). We even tried autofellatio together, which I was still flexible enough to get sometimes. After awhile, though, we stopped masturbating together, which kinda sucked for me. Sometime about a year ago, I bought my first masturbator on eBay (I know, super romantic). While I'm able to partially use those penis sleeves with enough lubricant, they're still way too small for me (I actually broke one). At this point, I have 3 or 4 toys to use by myself, but only about an ounce of lubricant, so I only use that on special occasions. I have plenty more to share, so just message to discuss anything else, or just more details. Thanks for reading!
@Smallsprout
I masturbate at least two times a day. My package is really big and I love playing with my better half. It's a great way to relax and my balls hurt if I don't release the tension so I'm all support and understanding here.
@ivoryZebra1269 I heard of masturbation in school in sex Ed but never really understood what it was and felt like till I had an orgasm. It was weird because I was on a couch and I started to feel the tingles and joy from it. It is said that maturation is a healthy thing to do. It gives you serotonin which makes you happy and every time you masturbate you loose weight. If you need sleep masturbate, some people also use it to wake up. Depending on the person, you find toys or just your fingers/hands. For me I have used my fingers, my mom vibrators that I found and washed and now I have 2 of my own. To me masturbation is a healthy thing because of what it does to your brain and the way it makes you feel. Enjoy it anyway you can.
@ivoryZebra1269
I remember my days when I was achieving puberty. My sexual body parts a rouse a lot and I just get turned on by looking females. Although as a Muslim I wasn't authorized to touch any opposite of sex. I did started initiating masturbation but soon my father realized that I am reaching to achieve my puberty so he send me to Scholars of my religion. Where I learned the art of purity, fasting, charity, Laws, Rules and sacred values of sex between man and woman.
Ever since, I am practicing and guarding my self from wrong doings of every aspect of life.
My knowledge and experience States if you have sexual desire then control them and reveal them to only your partner of life while retaining purity. Provide security and rights to your partner first and then engage into meaningful relationship
May God Bless you and lead you to right path.
Thank you
@ivoryZebra1269 Well as a kid gets into their teen years, their hormones and body starts changing/growing. As expected, a teenager wants to know what to do about their elevated hormones and if they don't learn it from their friends, they'll hear it on the internet or TV! I am Catholic and went to private schools my whole life. They told us that the Bible states that masturbation is wrong, but I was a teenager once myself and curious also. Hopefully God doesn't hold that against me! I don't see it as horrible or evil as we are all human.
It's a natural thing and prob good for u to release stress, I don't know why there's a stigma with it,
Masturbation is awesome and a great way to relax. I started masturbating at the age of 8, learned a lot about my body that was. I see nothing but positive things about it - unless you're in public or harassing someone in the process, that's a no-no
Self pleasuring one's self hasn't caused a unplanned pregnancy or sexually transmitted disease yet (both good things)
It's also been said... that masturbation is having sex with someone you Truly Luv (LoL)
Does anybody have tips for overcoming intense shame? I know masturbating isn't bad but I still feel horrible and dirty when I do.
@Teacupsarecute
What workerd with me was thinking about the moment instead of fantasize about unrealistic things that distracted me. When I finish I'm fully satisfied because all I wanted do was touching myself and that's what I did. Desiring things can make you frustrated for not getting what you want.
@ivoryZebra1269 I began masturbating at age 12.. and never stoped doing it.. I masturbated around 30-50 times per day when I was a teenager.. and it went down.. but always doing at least 10-20 per day.. I honestly never got a serious talk about it... some people say its good.. others say its not.. as long as it does not interfere in your personal life is good .
@ivoryZebra1269
To me masturbation was never talked about, and the few times I heard people talking about it always had a bad conotation. Like women aren't supposed to masturbate, that they can't feel pleasure until they get married and that masturbation is a satan's work. What can I say.. ignorance comes a long way...
This made me grow up feeling SUPER ashamed of it. To this day (I'm 22) I'm stil a virgin but I do masturbate. I rarely do it because of the stigma and bad things people told me. I'm doing my best to fight it. My boyfriend does help me alot but it's still hard :(
@ivoryZebra1269
I am 77 and my wife is 75. We no longer have in and out type sex, as this is like running a mini marathon.
Instead, I masturbate my wife [edited]. At the same time, she holds her vibrator on her clit.
With her other hand, she strokes my cock up and down. However, she only wants mutual sex about once a month, whereas I need sexual activity about every three days, so I masturbate myself in a number of different ways. I often spend up to half an hour at a time experimenting sexually with myself, [edited] I have had inumerable numbers of orgasms with this. The pleasure is just divine.
Variety, is the spice of an ever interesting sex life, so be prepared to experiment and enjoy tremendous happiness through masturbation.
It is perfect sexual therapy.
[edited by Anomalia to remove excessively graphic detail]
Hey new here, so to introduce myself I have ocd traits and anxiety disorder. Yesterday I was kinda horny so I decided to watch porn and masturbate. I watched a lot of videos and it looked like I was pretty turned on and quite anxious to release all this stress. I got myself in a video of a woman masturbating to her stepson and I masturbated to her moans and sayings. The thing is that I usually dont just masturbate to woman masturbating, and it seemed like I was already turned on so I kept going till I finish. Now my ocd wont let me go, saying things if I was somehow attracted to this woman, That it was hot and her vagina is hot and shit. Im not a lesbian or anything. It was the heat of the moment. What do you guys think. Im debating on what I got turned on by her masturbating. Do you guys think it was the heat of the moment? My ocd wont let me go. There was a part she did that I called hot, but Im not attracted at all to her, nor any woman. I just like men. What do you guys think? Thank you!!
@Dol1996 - Hi there, I'm glad you reached out! It can definitely be pretty confusing to find yourself enjoying something that you didn't expect to or reacting differently to something because of the heat of the moment. It's actually very common to find something sexy that isn't what you're typically into, or even just not to be bothered by it in the moment when you are already masturbating - and that doesn't mean that it is something you're attracted to or want. Our minds and bodies can react to a lot of stimuli and it's not always as simple as saying that if you were still going in the moment that you are suddenly attracted to that particular thing (though there's nothing wrong with being attracted to women or to men or both!).
As another example, I imagine some of the porn you have watched before might be hot to see, but the specific scenario isn't necessarily one you would actually enjoy in reality - it's a similar situation here, I think.
Hope that helps!
@Dol1996
As a listener I've actually worked with someone with a similar concern, theres no reason to be worried, if you're enjoying it then theres no reason to stop just because of some worry that probably won't effect you in the end.
I started early on.
When I was 16 I was in a polyamorous relationship and there was no need for masturbation. After 4 years the relationship broke up ... soon after that I met my (now) wife and had a healthy sex life with her (shes monogamous)
Ive been married for 15 years and lately not having much sex with her (I think we did it 3 times in the last year) which is partly due to health reasons on her behalf.
So at the age of 36 I recently started masturbating again. . .
Theres nothing wrong with it.
I've never done it cause mom doesn't want me to bur I'd like to know more about it.
@wonderfulRainfall51
Hi, what kind of tips would you like to have? Do you feel like you are doing it too much or how to make it more pleasant or something else?
I hope I'll be able to help you out! Greetings😁
I've never done it before parents don't want me to. but I am interested in knowing what it's like.
@candymandy13 same! I honestly want to know what it's like because it would be nice to be more aware of my body.
To be honest, I try to keep myself in hand and not watch adult videos. I found a more interesting alternative and am having fun with [edited by Anomalia to remove link] It's fun and interesting in my opinion. Of course, I read that Masturbation is not harmful to health. Most likely it is just psychological barriers and social.