Low Sex Drive Boyfriend
Hello, I'm having trouble in my relationship. We’ve been together for 3 years and have always had trouble sexually. He has had trouble with ED and orgasming. We have managed to work through both issues and seemed to be doing well other than I would prefer to have sex more often. I compromised with 1-2 times per week and oral sex on other nights (for me) but he usually refuses my offer to reciprocate. I recently realized that he is *** fairly often, even after he declines my offers. I’m frustrated and hurt by this and I'm wondering if someone can offer some insight or advice.
@Melancholicupcake
As a woman whose partner is also suffering with ED i think it is about they have more control over their own responses.....
we seldom did things and when we did lasted 6-8 seconds before he was done .....
it really is not about you and i am sure if he felt more in control of the situation he would not be doing what is happening
Thank you tough tiger . I think that you're right and it is about him being able to control his responses better. Though we gave come a long way and he rarely loses it with me anymore. I feel like I would be more understanding if this was back when he had trouble but I can usually take care of it within 10 minutes now. Mostly what we have trouble with now is how frequently he refuses me. Before it was okay because I thought it was that he couldn't so often, but now I realize that he is, just not with me
@Melancholicupcake
i realize how frustrating that is ....................i know people say talk about it but if it is a performance concern or issue talking only makes it worse IMO. i tried i told the truth about his lack of spontaneity and his bizarre behavior while at it ...as well..... he thinks just stopping to slow his response
helped me ............put me back at square one then he said i" was not TRYING" ......... like i can just concentrate and poof.
I wonder if other issues cleared up we will ever be in the groove again as the more this happens it just creates a big divide in our relationship.
Maybe try something new? Exciting? Something both of you have never done before but want to.
