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Increased libido - not sure how to handle it

ezrea February 28th, 2016

Currently, I am going through a separation with my wife. This woman, is the only person I have had sex with for the past 10 years. Now, while I am trying to work through depression, anxiety, and whatnot due to the separation, I have a very decided increase in my libido. The physical need sometimes can be overwhelming, and the only thing that ends up on my mind for hours at a time. I currently don't masturbate due to living at a friend's house, though before I came to stay here, I was mastubating almost 2 times a day. I have always viewed sex as something between two people who love each other, but at the same time want it so insanely bad I don't know what to do. I've only ever had sex with someone I was dating and had intense emotion for....

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SwordOfDoom February 28th, 2016

@ezrea

Your increase in Libido is totally natural, and repressing it will just cause you more anguish and suffering. Even if you are free to have your own views and moral objections to out of marriage sexuality, the fact is that sexual repression affects your health in a negative way.

Jinks March 2nd, 2016

Mine is through the roof...and I've been thinking of hooking up with someone. But I know I shouldn't.

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ezrea OP March 3rd, 2016

@Jinks I have been having these fleeting thoughts as well, however, I have also never 'hooked up' or had a 'one night stand' in my life before. Even if I thought I could handle it emotionally right now (which I know I can't), I wouldn't even know how to go about it xD

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courageousTangerine833 March 3rd, 2016

If masturbation helps relax you, then perhaps you should consider using that right now to give yourself some relief, and the relief can go beyond a sexual need, it can relax you as well physically/mentally/emotionally, maybe. If you've never had a one night stand, use that in your fantasy - there's nothing wrong with that. It's totally up to you if and when you decide to have sex with someone whether or not you're in a committed relationship. It's not a wrong doing by any means, especially if both of you know what you're getting into. If you can exercise on your own or in a group activity the endorphin rush may be of help too. Hope that this helps somewhat.

Jinks March 5th, 2016

Met a guy he wants the same thing as me.

We get to meet tomorrow. We both need it.

I'm basically doing what escorts do

just I'm doing it for the sex only.