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Hey! Im nineteen-years-old and Ive been on the pill now for about a year and a half.
however, I have developed this huge anxiety around somehow becoming pregnant whenever I have sex. It happens every month that I have any sort of sexual experience; not even just penetration. I use protection, and Im on the pill, but my brain always sneaks in horrible thoughts and what ifs that get me very very anxious every single time. Its becoming a problem that affects me during sex and foreplay, because I am so aware of whats happening and how close any unprotected skin is to me, that I cant actually get my mind into a place that can make me focus and enjoy it.
does anyone have any advice?
@Sssssssstop
Heya! Thanks for sharing, I can understand how these what ifs can make you anxious and thus affect you during sex, which must not feel nice and enjoyable at all… You mentioned that you get very aware of whats happening and of any unprotected skin is really close, which can indeed be really worrying.
Its just a suggestion but do you think that doing researches on how your pill works could help? I dont know which kind of pill you take, they have different mechanisms depending on their kind (basically: either blocking the ovulation process, or blocking the spermatozoides, or making your uterus "uninhabitable", or even combining these 2-3 actions which is often the case with the pill now). Maybe when you start getting anxious about the unprotected skin being close, you could counter this anxiety by reassuring yourself thanks to being aware of how the pill works on your body and how it will prevent anything from happening.
I hope this can help! Else let me know and we can try and brainstorm more ideas, or if you want more details on the working mechanisms of the pill!
Take care x
Waves ~
I'm sorry you're going through this. However, it's a more common fear than you think! Awareness can help a lot. You can learn more about how your body and your pill work, maybe talk to your doctor about this and ask him/her questions. If you still feel scared, you can use a barrier method e.g. a condom in addition to your pill to feel extra safe. Seeking psychological support can also help you a lot, and also sharing your fears with the people you trust. Talking really can help.
Many girls were able to overcome this fear and start enjoying sexuality again, and you can too! I wish you the best!
