Going to a strip club/gentlemens club/cabaret
So my husband and I were having a conversation about strip clubs and I told him that him going to a club with barely clothed women and entertaining them is not something I am comfortable with him doing. I would feel completely disrespected and feel cheated on. That’s just my opinion. Well him on the other hand, his response is that if he can’t go then I can’t go. I said that fair. I won’t go to anything where there would be barely clothes men like strip clubs amongst other things. But he said it can’t be any strip club if any kind. Men or women. I asked why and he said it isn’t fair that I can tell him what to do but then go and do the same thing I’m telling him he can’t do. No matter how I explained that men going to see women naked and women going to see men naked are the same. But for me since I am a heterosexual female, me going to see naked women would be the same as him going to see naked men. No matter how I explained it he feels like if I were to go to a club with barely clothed women that he would do it too if he had the chance just for the simple fact that I already did it. It doesn’t make sense to me and I just don’t agree with how he is going about this situation.
@kindPlum3623
Hello,
I completely see your perspective!
You effectively communicated your boundaries!
I commend you on that.
It’s also understandable that he communicated his boundaries as well. However, I can see his boundary can come off as a bit for the wrong reason.
I hope you two can have a healthy open discussion about this.
Sending hugs 💛✨
Ok for starters, I’m literally super new to this. I’m not a counselor nor do I pretend to be one nor do I ever want to be one.
My anger to your question is this: communication and boundaries. Communication is EVERYTHING in a relationship. Talking about boundaries especially because everyone is different. I’ve had a relationship where he wouldn’t allow me to look any man in the eye, or that was cheating. Ya I got rid of him pretty fast. But y’all need to talk about what they consider cheating. Some couples allow certain things, and you need to talk to your man and come to a good aggreeiibg place. Sorry about any misspells, I’m old and I can’t see this text hardly at all.
Another thing I feel I need to say, I use to be a stripper. And I guess I can only speak for myself, but the strippers there don’t give a shit about your man. They only want his money. That’s what I would worry about. At the club I worked at the dj would say, “thank these girls, as they are part of the reason you go home and f_#* your wives…”