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Relationship Stress / by kindPlum3623
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 1 day ago
...See more my husband and I have been together for almost a decade. We have been married for about 3 years. We struggle with healthy communication skills but we are working on it. We struggle most with our language, no cursing of the sort, but saying things that put the other on the defense. We are striving to work on it with no outside council as we don’t know anyone in a healthy relationship or marriage and we can’t afford couples/marriage counseling. my question is, sometimes when I address something to my husband that I want to change or just telling him how I prefer to do things, his response is something along the lines of “things won’t always go your way” without suggesting otherwise. It seems he isn’t fond of the things I suggest but he isn’t initiating finding another way to get the job done. I don’t understand how we can problem solve this issue when it comes up. i understand we are different people and won’t always do things alike and i am always willing to listen to other suggestions but it just seems like he wants to shut down the way i like to do things. i want him to be more flexible. More willing to do things that help me out or simply make me more comfortable. I even try to let him know I’m not asking him to change how he chooses to do things, but when it comes to dealing with me I asked that he be understanding and consider the person that I am. am I asking too much? Am I asking the wrong thing?
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Going to a strip club/gentlemens club/cabaret
Relationship Stress / by kindPlum3623
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 September 12th, 2022
...See more So my husband and I were having a conversation about strip clubs and I told him that him going to a club with barely clothed women and entertaining them is not something I am comfortable with him doing. I would feel completely disrespected and feel cheated on. That’s just my opinion. Well him on the other hand, his response is that if he can’t go then I can’t go. I said that fair. I won’t go to anything where there would be barely clothes men like strip clubs amongst other things. But he said it can’t be any strip club if any kind. Men or women. I asked why and he said it isn’t fair that I can tell him what to do but then go and do the same thing I’m telling him he can’t do. No matter how I explained that men going to see women naked and women going to see men naked are the same. But for me since I am a heterosexual female, me going to see naked women would be the same as him going to see naked men. No matter how I explained it he feels like if I were to go to a club with barely clothed women that he would do it too if he had the chance just for the simple fact that I already did it. It doesn’t make sense to me and I just don’t agree with how he is going about this situation.
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Am I being too sensitive?
Relationship Stress / by kindPlum3623
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 June 9th, 2022
...See more My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 yrs. He is 25 and I am 24. We have been living together for about 5 years now. I’ve noticed recently that when I tell him about something new I’m doing, he always gives me “better” options or suggestions and it makes me feel like he isn’t supportive of the decision I am making. For example, I told him I want to do at home workouts versus being in the gym and he always makes a point to ask me to go to the gym with him even tho I told him I don’t want to. I also told him that I was thinking about registering for an Practical nursing program. And his first response was suggesting I become and RN which is one step ahead a LPN. He’s always suggesting better options or what he thinks is better when I think he should just support what I tell him.
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