@CindyIsNotOkay
Hey kettle your black, Im pot, nice to meet cha, lol. But seriously.. whos measuring if your too much ? Maybe.. they are too little, my point being at the end of the day, whaat do YOU think? And that may help you answer the other question as well. You are facing a feeling of shame afterwards, so first thank yourself for having the emotional capabilities that are needed to feel shame, then thank your gf, because somehow she is providing a level of comfort / intimacy that is allowing this to come up for you, it may be a belief you have been carrying around since birth... Dont judge the feelings, welcome them and ask them some potentially life changing questions, gently demand an answer, you will hear it if you listen, and proceed by saying starting today, I am WILLING to release this feeling of shame that I have associated with...(fill in your answer) and IF u dont have one right away just continue to say the statement starting today, I am willing to release this feeling of shame..it can kickstart what seems to be the start of a healing :) Hope that helps even I teeny bit, I can relate💯
