Advice
Next year, my girlfriend and I are planning/ considering to have *** together. I’ve been looking and reading things about safety, communication and how we can have safe ***. I feel though she’s had *** before with her ex, there’s still nervousness from her and me being my first time into it. Feel that part of the hesitation from her is because I’m a new person who has done it. And things that her ex and her have done I would have to learn, adjust or try things for her to maybe enjoy things. I feel that all the reading, learning, telling and teaching. Can’t really prepare you to go into have first time *** with your partner. And I feel I’m still unprepared for it.
any thoughts on this, that anyone can give.
@Foxman10 It's really great you are trying so hard to learn and have a safe experience. I'm sure she will appreciate it. I know it's hard when you're anxious, but it's not really about "performing" but connecting with your partner, spending quality time and showing her you are affectionate and attentive to making her feel good. The "mechanics" of it may not be perfect the first time, but will improve the more you communicate and get comfortable with each other.
