unsure what to do
I feel like my relationship with my girlfriend is toxic. She doesn’t talk to me very much and I just feel kind of fed up. We live together and I feel like our relationship is going nowhere. I am drifting away from my family and I feel like we are stuck in this relationship where we have all of this repressed anger and frustration and I have no idea how to deal with it. Also our sex life is completely dead. I love her and care about her a lot but I am kind of tired of what it feels like to be in a relationship together. I am feeling pretty pessimistic about whether we can have a healthy and successful relationship. I don’t want to break up but I feel at a loss about how we can somehow heal our relationship. I am feeling really sad and frustrated and pessimistic.
Hi I can understand the confusion, anger, frustration and the pain you are going through. My suggestion or recommendation is that just forget about everything I mean everything..take a break from your work or what ever you doing ..GO for a small trip (2-3 days or a week) to your family, relatives or friend which you might have panned and never happened or even plan for a solo trip.
Or go for a trip with your friends and get loose your self and comeback fresh. She will be curious and will.miss you to some extent and make use of this opportunity to catch up or even once you back talk very openly and flush out your love and feelings to her and what is expected and the situation through which you are going and wanted a happy life with her. Don't forget to get a beautiful gift which she might have dreamt or liked.
Please try this out if you have yet.
Hoping and praying that everything will be positive and good will happen.takw care
Regards
@Dubain
I think I just want to discuss this all in therapy. Honestly I just feel so lost. I want to talk to her about all of this but she gets angry and accuses me of tone-policing if I say that I don’t like the way she is talking to me or something like that. I don’t know, I just feel lost and overwhelmed. Our relationship doesn’t feel healthy right now and I just feel a lot of anger and frustration.
Dear Eumesmo...really understands your feelings now and emotions..and never think that feeling of lost.and all. this is not the end of anything..there're so many options as you are now going through some.bad phase..which will really make you strong..this gives your opportunity to analysis ourselves .and improvise or polish it to reflect more poaitive energy.. with due respect can you first check with your close friend and ask him or her to be very frank with you on whether any unnatural behavior from your side and any awkward or weird thing observed on you..tale it easy and give some time..just get the confidence that she is yours and she also loves you like you do...just go ahead and speak
Personally, I think I’m on the other side of this. I believe my boyfriend is feeling this way about me. I think that you should do her a favor and yourself and do what you think is best. You may not love her anymore.
@bestChestnut9870
I do love her. It’s hard. I love her so much. I just feel really lost. I want to talk to her about all of this but I’m not sure where to start. But without question I love her a lot. And I care about her a lot.