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obsessed with my boyfriend ex

User Profile: chuusupremacy
chuusupremacy November 1st, 2022

I’m 18 and my boyfriend is 21. This is my first relationship & he has had a few long term relationships in the past. He genuinely is a great boyfriend and takes really good care of me, but one day I got this really strong feeling to check his phone. When I did, his ex was texting him photos of them when they were together, some of them were of them in more ~intimate moments~. My boyfriend did not text her back at all but she was texting him almost every hour for DAYS. When i asked why she was unblocked in the first place, he said he checked up on her about a month ago because she was in a bad place mentally and struggling with drugs. Ever since i’ve seen these pictures i’ve become extremely jealous. She’s so beautiful, not a single flaw. I keep comparing myself to her, looking at her social media accounts every day and just tearing myself apart. I am so scared he’s going to leave me for her because of how gorgeous she is and how much they’ve been through in the past together. He reassures me everyday that he would never leave me for anyone but this insecurity is ruining our relationship. I am logged into his *** & made him keep his location on at all times. I’ve been trying to be a better girlfriend than her, i’ve bought him flowers and write him letters whenever I can. They broke up in march but every few months he finds his way back to her, even if it’s just a few words being exchanged. He promises he’s 100% over her but i just can’t believe him. I don’t know why he would chose me over her. How do I leave his past in the past? How do I stop ruining my relationship with my boyfriend over my own insecurities?


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User Profile: Josh3889
Josh3889 November 3rd, 2022

@chuusupremacy

Thank you & I am sorry to hear that you are struggling. Let's start with some facts you believe that she is perfect but in reality she has been in a bad place mentally and was struggling with drugs at some point. Other facts to conside, they broke up for a reason & he has said multiple times that you does not plan on going back. Your boyfriend sees something in you that you don't even see in yourself! As far as having him share his location with you I don't think it is a good idea, unless you absolutely don't trust him but that does not sound like the case!

Thank you so much for sharing, if you ever need a chat just click on my profile.

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User Profile: chuusupremacy
chuusupremacy OP November 4th, 2022

Thank you so much for your feedback! It was very helpful.

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User Profile: dukeofdearham
dukeofdearham November 4th, 2022

He chose you over her.