marraige advice needed
hi its a long post so bear with me.
we got married 4 years before and before marraige he have another girl in his life. how we got married its a long story.
first year of marraige was like hell he dont have job and we have financial problems along with his personal issue. whcih i think because of his breakup he needed time to move on.
so i let it pass.
now the real problem is after the birth of our baby he became so distant that i do not understand him anymore.
i do not know what he feels about me. i do not belive him when he says he loves me
because one day he act what he said. amd the other day he make me feel shit again.
i tried to communicate with him but it is not working.
i am soo upset to not knowing what the hell is wrong and i failed to spot the real problem.
he do not want to leave me either and tolf me that he want to settle down.i am tired and exhausted from this situation.
Hi, @Theamani,
It seems like you feel distant and disconnected with your husband especially after your baby was born. It's confusing when he says that he loves you, but doesn't act that way all the time. You have the right to feel upset about this, and you deserve to feel loved in your marriage.
You're not alone. There were times when I felt this way. Some things that might help is scheduling date nights everyweek to reconnect, talk on the phone to each other while sitting next to each other, or going to couples retreat/therapy. You might find another way to feel closer to him.
(If your husband is abusing you emotionally, verbally, physically, or in any other way, however, your safety ,as well as your child's safety, would be the first priority.)
