i need help
hey all, hope everything is going okay. im not really sure what to do. me and my ex recently broke up a week ago and i really want her back. we had contact all this week and more less the past two day. anyways, i just dont know what to do. she keeps telling me that she does not want to date me but deep down i know she does. i just dont know what to do. yes, there were problems causing the breakup. i was mentally is a screwed up place and took it or placed it all on her, making her leave and scared. i dont know what to do, i recently started taking medication to help my anxiety with is doing me a lot better. i just do not know what to say or tell her. right now, she is just thinking negatively of everything and nothing good! it was a 70/30 relationship (70 good, 30 bad). hopefully you guys can relate to what im talking about. is no-contact necessary? is talking to her necessary? im not sure and i really need help. i just love her so much and i miss her so so much. she keeps telling me the same thing but wont give me a chance to try! she also has been really short with me, i just do not know what to do.
@reservedNorth2212
I'm really sorry about what you're going through. It is difficult. And it hurts.
How are you emotionally? Maybe you have urge to do something. You do not want to wait. In my experience, it's good to wait until I'm more calm. When I have a clearer head. And it takes time. I know it's hard. Yes, maybe you'll keep thinking about her all the time. And it's alright and understandable. But what matters is what you do.
What helps you feel better?
Emotionally, im a mess lol. Along with that, im not really sure what helps me feel better yet. I guess right now it seems like talking to her makes me feel better. After posting, I did talk to her all day to give her some space as well as me. I think that did good, im not very unsure of everything as it is foreign to me.
@reservedNorth2212
I understand you're a mess. It is completely normal in such a situation. You write you do not know what to do. It would also be good to find out what not to do. Don't make it worse.
I would like to help you. We could take a look at what will be best for you right now. And find out what you need and what you want at the moment. What is your priority. But I don't know the details of the breakup. Who broke up with whom and what was the reason. I would need more information to get the big picture.
As I have my own experience. I think I could give you some perspective.
So if you want, write me a private message. I'll leave it up to you. Take care.
@reservedNorth2212
If the problem can't be solved and she don't want to be with you anymore, just move on. Improve yourself to have a better relationship in the future. Look at what went wrong and try to prevent it from happening again. If you feel it was your fault that's why she left, what did you do wrong and work from there.
The problem can be solved. The reason why we broke up is because of me, yes. I am finally starting to accept that she is not going to come back for awhile, if it all. There were problems with the both of us, but apparently they were more so my fault. I really want her back, and I know she wants me back but she is stubborn. She keeps giving me mixed signals and I dont know how to win her back or what to do to get her to like me again. I really do not want to move on, I want her and only her.
@reservedNorth2212
If she also want to get back but is giving you mix signals, I say have a serious talk with her. What if she's just leading you on because she know how much you want her back? Have you done something so serious and bad to make her have mix feelings like this? If the problem can be solved, it's up to her decision at this point.
Hello, I like that you gave each other space. Do you think space will help you both figure out what is best for you both? I know loving someone you are not with is hard. Also do you think she is going through something or trying to figure out what she want? Maybe you could write down the good and bad of the relationship and see if you want that relationship again. Good luck