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dealing with childish partner

toughTiger6481 October 22nd, 2023

 Ever do things like plan an event or deal with a problem or issue and have a partner swoop in and try to take credit for MY work .......

my partner doe snot do the leg work or research and since i am having movement and results they decide they could do it BETTER want to take over and do it all over again ... because I got credit and they did not .......

when i corrected one item they wrote ......... as they have only taken my words they heard me talk about an issue not dealing with issue .... they have thrown a fit / went silent and pout ...... this is a grown older person and act like a butt hurt preteen.   I know this will only escalate and it is not really about credit for something being done but i am tired of doing items the jump on 70% through it and it was all their idea....  NO 

any tips on dealing with this ... NOT talk and share my feelings BS .... this has been going on for decades talked til i am hoarse does not change. 

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RebelliousLight October 22nd, 2023

Well personally I don't think this is just childish behaviour. My partner has been childish but with time he matured. As we all know men mature later than women.


However, this doesn't seem like childishness but just pure jealousy for your success. In a relationship you both should be equally happy when u both achieve something. There is nothing wrong with wanting to copy techniques to be as equally successful but outright taking credit for something you did not do is wrong.


As you said talking has not help. When u have communicated how u feel and your partner won't try to change it is your turn to reflect and weigh on the pros and cons of your relationship. You should weight if all of this is worth it in the long run. Do u want this in your future? As in can you see 40 years of this? If not you know what to do.


I don't know how your relationship with your partner is so that's something only you can decide. I do wish you the best. A relationship should be full of growth and change with one another to be best for each other in the long term. You can't make someone change if they don't want to. If they truly love you and listen to you they will.