Trying to find balance
I recently entered a relationship with a recovering addict. There are somethings I want to understand and I’m willing to educate myself. It’s just the insecurities I face that I’m struggling with. When is the right time to tell him how I feel? I know his recovery comes first and will always be a factor in our relationship. I wonder sometimes if my past traumas might make me toxic for him or more understanding of him. He recently asked me for space so he could focus more on his recovery. I’m not sure how I should take this time as a let him do what he has to do and wait or do what I have to do and move on. I’m stuck in the middle. Upon dating him I recognized it was going to be tough but the true value of that responsibility and commitment to an addict I trying to figure out.
Hello friend, thank you for sharing this with us. I completely understand what you're going through. I'm in the same boat. I believe communication is very important. Let him know you feel as soon as you can. Maybe start with "hey, I know you asked me to give you some space but I would like to share how I feel before I can do that..". It's not healthy to bottle up these emotions within you. But if you think this is definitely not a good time to talk about it, then be strong and be patient. Congratulate him for wanting to work on his recovery and keep supporting him. But remember you need to care about yourself too, if this relationship is too toxic for you it might be best to move on. I wish you the best.
