Tired of being the emotional punching bag
It is hard for me to write, but I will explain it the best as I can. For the last 15 years, It seems when I get into a relationship, things start off okay. I always try to be the good guy as I was raised. I have a good job, my own home, never use a woman for money or a place to live. I do not do drugs or excessively drink. I do not gamble.
After a while of being with her, we get into an argument - about something small, but then she gets REALLY mad at me like I did something horrible. I try to just accept it as a bad day, but it starts to happen more and more. Whoever I am with, will tell me about how bad their last relationship was and the bad things the other guy did. Eventually, the arguments gets worse and then I am told I am like "him" and things end.
I am tired of it. I left every dating site, I stopped socializing because I am just tired of being the person to take the punishment for the bad things someone else has done to them. No matter how many promises I make and show them I will love and respect them, I still can't escape the stigma of what someone else's shadow. While I sit here and take it until I can't. I seem to have a curse of finding the people in which I am just the outlet for their hurt and pain.
I appreciate any advice how to break this cycle because I am just at a point where I truly have no hope for a family or future with anyone.
Read the book 3% man by Corey Wayne. After reading this you will realize that you’ve been doing something wrong. The girl is testing you to see if she can push you off your center and purpose. Then the fights get worse because she’s testing you harder now and you’re failing harder too. Read the book and your life will change. He recommends reading the book 10-15 times so it really sticks with you. Best of luck!
@gobirds
I looked into the book you wrote and did quite a bit of research. I have also read quite a few dating books in the past and been on many forums for how to improve myself. I do have an important question though: Why do I get tested when the last guy that took advantage of her got so many chances? It is hard for me to believe all partners perform "tests", but perhaps my thinking is entirely wrong about everything.
