Separated but Living Together
Does anyone have experience with this type of arrangement? Would appreciate any guidance on past experiences, rules, etc. Wanting to see if this is a realistic option. My wife has been pulling away for some time. Not sure if this is her midlife crisis or just been unhappy for some time. She doesn't talk directly about it only vaguely. For the first time a couple of days ago she stated in an argument that she wanted a divorce. we've been in separate rooms since, Thanks
@Stories2Tell
I have been living that way for awhile ......... it is common i feel as many living situations are expensive for one person and so a built in roommate is an easy solution.....
If you want to stay together it is not a good idea as i have found more irritation in them doing things that annoy me more ..... like basic house keeping things i expect them to do their own things as i no longer feel obligated to clean for them. We also did not work on or improve our communication which is needed to stay.....
some people may find it easier to rip the band-aid off and move out ..........
This is so heartbreaking especially when one party wants to salvage the relationship and the other is doing everything they can to show the other it's over. It's extremely traumatic and I recommend if you can move out safely to do so. The horror of watching someone you love do much not love you anymore is something you'll never get to erase from your memory bank
@Stories2Tell,
you are not seperated and living together. You are in a marriage that is not doing well.
Maybe suggest couples counseling to your wife. Counseling might help to start communicating again, whatever the outcome.
There are people that divorced and ended up being best friends. But that requires to live separately first. To take distance and have your own space. If there are any unresolved issues and you don't deeply love each other and still cling on to hope it won't work.
