Please help
Lately my boyfriend and I have been struggling a lot. Tonight we had another disagreement, I really wanna send the following message but idk if I should or not. Look, I’m not trying to kill your vibe or your happiness. I’m just trying to get us back on the same page. Were literally arguing every week about the same thing. You’re too busy with your mc and not paying me the time of day. Whenever I bring it up, you just shut down on me. I don’t see how you can just decide that our conversations aren’t worth the time when you’re on your phone texting everyone else literally all day. You keep telling me that I’m too much, so I tried to find something else to cool down, somewhere else to vent. And as soon as I feel like it’s working for me you start projecting your stress on me even more. This isn’t fair. It’s not fair that I have to find outside sourcing to vent when you feel like it’s perfectly okay to take our all your stress and frustration on me. It has to stop. I can’t handle it anymore. And since you wanted to mention killing happiness and vibes, moving into our new home was supposed to be a happy moment for us. Instead, I’ve been dreading living here everyday. Our roommate is a friend of yours, but I’m the one always having to clean up after her and tell her that she’s fucked up. I didn’t even want her here in the first place. The sad thing is, you even dislike her yourself. So, if you dislike her and think she acts like a child, why is it okay that I have to put up with her bullshit, clean up after her and her dog? Why am I having to sacrifice my happiness to make you and everyone around you happy? I deserve to be happy too? I deserve to have my own little space to go to relax and destrezas from the day. No, instead you have a “man cave”/garage we can’t park in and this dumb bitch put the ugliest tv in the living room that I don’t even wanna watch. All I have is cleaning and doing the laundry, but according to you that’s me doing too much and my ocd getting worse. Like wtf?!
@raeannelyssa Sorry to here that.
I hope things get better for you.
Sorry you're having to deal with that. Honestly, if there was a person causing that much stress in your life and your partner isn't acting how a partner should, you need to be straight with them about everything you feel and if they do nothing to fix it, then you can decide whether or not you still need that stress in your life.
@raeannelyssa
Why is the roommate there in the first place? Politely ask her to clean up after herself and if your man or the roommate don't do anything, I say leave while you can. Everyone in the house is a grown adult who should know how to clean up after themselves and/or their pet. You're not married to this person and hopefully you're not on the lease or anything. Living with him like this you get to see what kind of person he really is but, is that what you want for many more years to come?
They were roommates before hand. We thought she was going to move to a new duty station before our move in day, but then things fell through and we got stuck with her. I already have politely asked her to pick up after herself. The lease is in my name and only my name. It’s only been 2 weeks and I’m already thinking about telling her she needs to find somewhere else to live.
@raeannelyssa
So she is in the military? But, it is YOUR place. If she can't comply with the rules and he isn't going to do anything to help either, you need to give them an ultimatum.
