No contact
My ex and I have broken up a little over a month ago, we've been in no contact for 31 days. For some reason, today's hitting me hard like it was back on week one of no contact. I've taken this time of no contact to really improve myself and have been feeling good... But she still crosses my mind a lot. I know I've not fully moved on yet.
I havnt gotten too sad when I think of her lately, but for some reason today I'm down in the dumps. Everything's reminding me of her.
I'm planning on going at least 60 days of no contact... Im doing it longer for myself. I really want my mind squared away before/If I intend to reach out to her afterwards.
Little background of the relationship: She broke up with me, dated one year, distance was the reason for the breakup (200 miles). I thought she was the one, she used to say the same about me... Trying to take time away to reevaluate things. Should I wait for her to reach out to me (if she does) since she broke up with me?
@flyingtuna7
It's common to have some ups and downs after a breakup, not that makes it any easier to cope with. It seems like you are reflecting on the relationship and respecting the need for some time and distance to let the emotions fade a little bit. Every relationship is totally different so it's impossible to know what the right "next move" is. Sometimes the distance thing over time becomes a larger issue, whether the two people realize it or not. Other times, distance can cause people to connect emotionally and intellectually. I suggest you think about the quality of your interactions, the amount of importance seeing one another has for each of you, those sorts of things, to kind of figure out whether this is a breakup due to distance or other factors. Only you can figure that out. Maybe if you chat 1-on-1 with a few listeners it will help you sort out and organize your feelings. Just my personal thoughts, having been through it years ago. Take care, and I hope you find happiness and peace, no matter how things turn out.
