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flyingtuna7
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Relationship Stress / by flyingtuna7
Last post
 March 18th, 2022
...See more My Ex and I broke up a little over a month ago. We have had no contact for 35 days and counting. I feel pretty good about myself now and am reaching peace. We both deleted eachother off of social media post breakup to help move on. Is it a bad idea to friend request her now that things have calmed? I know that will "count" as breaking the no contact, but I don't want to erase her from my life completely. It'd be nice to catch up in the future someday, but It won't be the end of the world if we don't.
No contact
Relationship Stress / by flyingtuna7
Last post
 April 2nd, 2022
...See more My ex and I have broken up a little over a month ago, we've been in no contact for 31 days. For some reason, today's hitting me hard like it was back on week one of no contact. I've taken this time of no contact to really improve myself and have been feeling good... But she still crosses my mind a lot. I know I've not fully moved on yet. I havnt gotten too sad when I think of her lately, but for some reason today I'm down in the dumps. Everything's reminding me of her. I'm planning on going at least 60 days of no contact... Im doing it longer for myself. I really want my mind squared away before/If I intend to reach out to her afterwards. Little background of the relationship: She broke up with me, dated one year, distance was the reason for the breakup (200 miles). I thought she was the one, she used to say the same about me... Trying to take time away to reevaluate things. Should I wait for her to reach out to me (if she does) since she broke up with me?
No contact opinions?
Relationship Stress / by flyingtuna7
Last post
 March 10th, 2022
...See more My ex and I broke up a month ago, she broke up with me. We have had no contact for 28-30ish days. I've accepted the breakup and have been working on myself and have been feeling better. I still have very strong feelings for her however and still think she is the one (But I am trusting God's plan and have faith he will guide me the right way). It was a long distance relationship, and she said the distance was the reason for her ending things. I have a few questions/ opinions I would love to get others perspectives on: -Since she broke up with me, should I wait for her to reach out to me? -how long is too long for no contact? I was planning to go maybe 60 days before reaching out to see how she has been. -I'm going to be in the same state as her next month (around 60 days of no contact) for work. Would it be a bad idea to reach out to her and see if she'd want to meet up for a coffee and catch up? Obviously she still means a lot to me... She always will. But I am also thankful for the time we had and am open to where God will take me next. If it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be... I still think she is the one but am following and trusting God's path for me.
Dreams
Relationship Stress / by flyingtuna7
Last post
 March 6th, 2022
...See more My girlfriend broke up with me and I've been taking it hard (as most people do). I'm trying to let go even even though I want nothing more than for us to reunite someday in the future. I genuinely thought she was the one. Does anyone else have dreams nearly every night about their ex? The dreams make it very hard to accept things and move on.
Should I move on?
Relationship Stress / by flyingtuna7
Last post
 March 4th, 2022
...See more My ex and I were in a long distance relationship (3 hour drive; 170 miles) for almost a year. We tried to see eachother every weekend but due to various curve balls, like Army drill, there would be times where we wouldn't see eachother for 2-3 weeks. We made it work for almost a year, but in the end the distance was the reason she ended things. She struggles with anxiety and stress and I know that played a big factor in her decision. She's trying to get into a master's program and she was having trouble focusing on everything. Trying to see me every weekend started to feel like a chore due to the distance it would seem. Everytime we were together, she was so passionate towards me, and I to her. When we were apart, I could tell she grew upset. Her and I were so close and really connected on another level (I thought at least) I never connected with someone as much as I did with her, we had the same morals, principles, view, outlooks, interests, hobbies, and faith. We used to talk about growing together in love and in faith. I genuinely think she is the one. The hard thing too is her family loved me, especially her mother. I still talk to her mother from time to time and she told me she thought we were going to get married and she hopes that her and I may rekindle in the future. Her whole family loved me and even the grandparents loved me (who also thought we would get married). They all said I reminded them of a younger version of the grandfather (the foundation of their family). It's hard to let that all go, especially when I grew so close to them all. I was waiting for our 1 year anniversary to give her some big news, but I never got to let her know. I was going to tell her my plan to kill the distance. I was looking at apartments at the halfway point between us. I was prepared to make the long commute to work in the meantime, but I was also looking into transferring to a branch of my company down near her eventually (then ultimately move in together). I was waiting for our anniversary and I never got the chance to tell her. I know with long distance relations, you need that plan to beat the distance. I had it, but she never knew. I tried to text her my plan, but she never responded. I know she removed me from social media and possibly my phone number as well. Her mother told me that's her way of trying to move on... I'm still trying to figure out why she wants to move on. Her mother told me there is not another guy. I also have a unique situation where I have 150 shared credits to certain schools in the state. I was trying to get her access to these credits so I could help her pursue her dream career for free. I never told her this because I wanted her to choose her own path and not feel burdened. I had a lot of plans for her that I left for a grand surprise, but it ultimately backfired. At the end of the day, I'm 25 and she's 23... I know we are young and have a lot of life ahead of us. Things could come back, but they also could not. I put my heart and soul into the relationship and it's hard to feel so powerless in the matter. I know time and God will heal all, but I still can't bring myself to let go of her. I still thinks she's the one. I want to wait for her but I know that's a painful thing to do to myself.
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