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My GF has time to do stuff, but not to be with me

Jacob494 March 17th

So me and my GF are dating since october. It was perfectly working, we had dates even 2 times a week and she was really into me. Ive never felt more connected to a girl.

But since 1st december due to her full time job as nurse and studying for her Bc. time together got rapidly lowered. Since december we were together only twice. Yes, twice in last 100 days. And I had to take days off to even have time for her. She also was on few little trips in nature about 50 km away, maybe with family and posted it on ***, but didnt have time for me.

I would think she doesnt care anymore or found someone else, but this is where I get lost. I gave her a necklace which she always wears. Even on every of her selfies on ***, which I really love. Second thing - when we have seen each other last time (after 7 weeks and 1 week without any contact - she was sick and working) she was so happy to see me and was hugging me for so many minutes!

Its true our chat has less messages like: How are you today... But last time we agreed on keeping it on OK level and dont ignore for 7 days ever again. And we still sends good night and hearts almost every day.

1 week ago she wanted to be together at my place, but she apologized 'cause she just finished her school day after nightshift at hospital and just needed to sleep asap. I understood, I always want her to be OK.

This week I was on business trip 200 km away and our chat got rapidly better, we chat every other evening. But yesterday she posted selfie from 4 star restaurant in my city (she was there probably with her sister) and then texed me she is finally home and goes to drink some beer (until 2 AM). We will see each other next thursday, but why didnt she make time for me this weekend or the last when she went to drink som wine with sister?

So... I have no idea what to do in this scenario. When I push her to have time she just ignores me for a day or two. There is good chance she will change departments and wont have nightshifts and weekends, but I have no idea when.

I plan to tell it to her personally kindly, maybe she doesnt get how she makes me feel. I am really stressed even on physical level (less sleep, less eating). 


Advice would help. I am big overthinker but i am really trying to stay calm here. Thanks!

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CheeryMango March 17th

It sounds like you're experiencing a lot of confusion and uncertainty in your relationship, which can be incredibly challenging to navigate. It's understandable that you're feeling stressed and overwhelmed by the situation. It's important to communicate your feelings and concerns with your girlfriend in a calm and understanding manner.

When you talk to her, try to focus on expressing how you feel rather than accusing or blaming her. Let her know that you miss spending time together and that you're feeling disconnected. Share with her the impact that the lack of quality time is having on you, both emotionally and physically.

It's also essential to listen to her perspective and understand her side of the story. Her busy schedule as a nurse and student may genuinely be consuming a lot of her time and energy. However, it's still important for both partners to make an effort to prioritize the relationship and find ways to stay connected, even amidst busy schedules.

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Jacob494 OP March 17th

@CheeryMango
Thank you SO MUCH! This helps me a lot. I needed to know how to tell it to her, thank you.

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