Moving on, or just getting habituated?
EchoEce17
August 9th, 2022
Going through a breakup is not easy. They are one of the most common thing we see around - before marriages and throughout it.
Someone around the world is experiencing it, and maybe tagging it as "Moving on!"
But, are the memories too faint to remember someone you gave your heart and soul to? Is your mind so strong that you will get over them by engaging yourself 24 x 7? Are the drinks and smoke and other intoxicants so powerful that it can take your mind off them and erase the memory, spinning the way of life?
Going through it surely feels like a hell of an experience to even share with someone single or happy with their partner. At times it feels everything is better and you are moving on, and there's the next moment when you sit around and cry thinking about every ache, as if of yesterday.
The most logical and common practice is to dodge everything and act like nothing ever happened.
Even if the brain denies the situation and tries to get away, your heart always runs to the person you love.
Is that really moving on? Is that what you call being okay with things and trying to get over it?
You might fight with them and even be mad at them for everything they did, but at the end, your heart still knows the place it belongs. And this my friend, is far beyond moving on!
Even if you say you feel numb, all you want is to feel the same again.
Even if you say you do not remember things, all you want is to experience them once again.
Even if you lie to everyone around you, your heart nudges you to speak the truth once again.
It is not the break up that hurts, it is the feeling of never feeling the same again that holds you back! It is the feel of choosing between your love and your respect that holds you back!
It is the feel of knowing they hurt you and not being able to unlove them that holds you back!
If you have moved on, why do you not meet them anymore? Why do you cross paths like strangers? Why do you cry for no triggering reasons? Why does your playlist romances remind you of them or your time together? Why does your dream still portray them?
The truth is, moving on is just habituating to their absence and actions.
Faking to find immature reasons to unlove them is not the solution. Rather the only solution is letting the truth sink in. Accept the fact that you loved them and it was not your fault. Let them go as you let yourselves go when you make a mistake. FORGIVE THEM!
Forgiveness could be the only key to your future happiness and something that lets you live with the truth. Or in your words, help you move on!
Happy900
August 9th, 2022
@EchoEce17 Thanks for sharing this with us.
I really enjoyed reading this.
I agree with what your saying as well.
We cannot forgive others, if we cannot forgive ourselves.
