Help needed
So I dont normally look on things like this but I'm at a loose end..
I have just got into a new relationship (around 2 months in the relationship but have been seeing her 6 months) I had a previous partner who lied and cheated on me and it caused me to be diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder and ever since then I have had negative thinking and always think the worst in every situation..
So now me and my new partner have become quite serious and she has just told her daughter about me which she said is a massive deal for her.. however she was sleeping at mine every weekend when she could but this week she said she is coming Friday but not sleeping and its caused me to question why, also when I ask to see her she says she has picked up a shift at work and I cant help but over think that she's lying and has plans with someone else.. its making me want to drive to hers and see if her car is there etc and I know this is wrong.. ive asked her why she isn't sleeping and she has said don't make it an issue..
I dont even know what type of advice am looking for really I just need someone to talk to about it.. she was single for 3 years before me and has said she was seeing different people during that time and sometimes at the same time and I worry this is what she is doing with me..
Help..
Hey man,I hear you. Please take it easy with your thoughts. A mother would not let you be near her child unless she trusts you completely. You're lucky of she share a relationship with you even after having a kid. Your thoughts might be natural but instead of accusing her of something bad that came into your mind,best thing would be to speak to her directly and communicate in way that is not accusive or rude. A healthy conversation about the whereabouts is not gonna hurt anybody. Take care xx.
As @softnripillow told you,
she mentioned you to her daughter. That is a big big deal. She let you in, into her life. She sees you as more then just another relationship.
How about getting professional help for your anxiety? It is damaging, and will ruin this relationship, if you don't start to own it, instead of your anxiety owning you.
Maybe start looking for help first (take your time to find the right therapist for you), and just tell her about your fears. If so, stay within your self, just express how you feel, don't make her feel like it is her who triggers those feelings (well maybe in a way you might think she does, but it has a very positive side too, like, only someone very special to you might wake up your triggers).
Take care, take control.
