Dont know what to do anymore
We broke up 3 months ago she said she doesn't feel like its working
we was together 7 months but before that we knew each other for a year we became best friends
Weve tried to stay best friends in these 3 months
But she keeps trying to get some distance and I am struggling but when I finally back off she shows interest again.
We end up spending 3 days together then she realises we shouldn't be doing this so wants to distance again and just be friends.....this has happened 4 times now. I'm getting so confused now, the last time this happened was my birthday, I went round to her house, she didn't get me a big bday present but she put out some food and alcohol and nice led lights on the table with a birthday cake with candles.....I'm 36 and never expected this especially from "just friends" its the nicest thing a friend has ever done for me we then spend the next few days constantly together and now yesterday we spoke on the phone and she said we can't have sex again and spend nights together again.......like she's said the other 3 times......and now today she has ignored my message all day. I'm so in love with her and she knows this I just can't move on because when I even try to think about it she shows me some slight interest again, I don't know what to do
@hardywoo85 Hello, I'm sorry you are going through this hard time. It is understandable that you are confused. It is not healthy to not know where you stand like this. Can you see a future in this relationship? She is giving you mixed messages and playing with your feeling. If this is hurting you, then as you cannot control her behaviour, the control you do have is in your actions. If you want to move on you need to cut contact with her. I know this will be hard for you but if you don't, won't you keep getting hurt? I wish you the best no matter what you decide to do.
@hopetohelpusboth thank you for the reply I feel like she isn't being clear why she doesn't want us to be together, but she misses us but then when we have each other for a few days I really think she doesn't want the risk of it failing and getting hurt in the future. We are so good together but I can't control what she wants your right but how much I'm hurting I can't walk away on something. I know I should but I'm so in love with her
I thought this would of got easier now but its not its getting harder
I'm so confused how someone can go from all over me to not wanting to talk to me and then wants to be close to me again before she's all over me again and so on
