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hardywoo85
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Need help -update
Relationship Stress / by hardywoo85
Last post
 July 9th, 2022
...See more Girl leaves ex Girl gets with me 4 weeks later Girl leaves me 4 weeks later Because still feels for ex She says she needs time to get over him She tells me she's not talking to him Tonight she messages me Saying she's really messed up, she went to see him, she slept with him, she left as soon as it happened and told me. She said she's realised it's not what she wants and realises she wants me The main thing is she lied to me saying she's not messaging him but she was, she never cheated on me, she broke up with me so she was single, she can sleep with who she wants but now she wants me back but not for a long time so she can clear her head, I want her back but don't know if I'm stupid because I've had a massive crush on her for 2 years, I really like her but not sure if I could trust her again I need help, even though she has lied to me about what she's doing, did she really have to be honest with me because we wasn't together considering she wanted to be friends Also I will be wondering will she leave me again one day to do the same
Does space always lead to better things?
Relationship Stress / by hardywoo85
Last post
 July 8th, 2022
...See more She broke up with me (whos right for her) after 1 amazing month because she was still in love with her ex (thats bad for her) that she needs to be alone to clear her head But has said she wants me to not wait for her incase she doesn't still want me when she's ready to date again Would giving her space help her want me back?
Please help me
Relationship Stress / by hardywoo85
Last post
 July 9th, 2022
...See more OK I'm 36 Gone through 1 divorce and 4 break ups This is my hardest break up yet, I've had a crush on her for 2 years 8 weeks ago I got the bottle to ask her out She was getting back with her ex They had been on and off for a year He treated her like poop! Lied to her A few days later she thought about me, Broke up with her ex and took a risk to get to know me better 3 weeks later we got on so well and got closer each day Then 4 weeks ago she made it into an official relationship and said she couldn't imagine a tome with out me because I make her so happy Her ex wouldn't leave her alone, asking for her back, making her feel guilty, threatening to kill himself so she put a restraint order on him, It only kicked in last week and he messaged her loads before he wasnt allowed to any more and got into her head big time Since then he's stopped but she told me she was finding it hard to get over him but wanted to try harder for us to work out Then 2 days ago I get a message off her saying she still loves him and can't carry on the relationship with me while she feels like that I asked her if she is talking to him and she said she can't legally so no not at the moment (makes me think she wants to though) We are now only friends but I want to be with her so badly I can't stop my feeling for her, we had so much fun in the short amount of time we had together, yes I admit it went way too fast but we liked it (at the time I guess) she introduced me to the whole of her family, she was planning for things for my birthday next month I need help sorting my head out
She loves her ex
Relationship Stress / by hardywoo85
Last post
 July 8th, 2022
...See more She was my gf for 3 weeks, dated for 3 before that and she only broke up with her toxic ex who trwsted her bad 1 week before that, we've known of each other for 2 years chatting in our kids school playground before school nearly every day, I liked her alot and use to get out my car when she would and would always find her in the playground, she told me she use to put make up on somedays to get my attention and use to park close to where I parked to see if I noticed her, within them 2 years she had been with two guys and obviously only did that stuff when she was single so I got mixed signals and never knew it was aimed for me, anyways she broke up with me 2 days ago because she still loves her ex, which he always lied to her, make up stuff about his job, his life and anything to make her feel guilty, every time she left him he pressured her back, until she got with me, she told him not this time and asked me if we could take it slow, so we dated for 3 weeks going on walks, doing activities with the kids, went for meals and then one day I kissed her, 2 days later she posted on social media we was in a relationship and I was happy, thinking everything was good, 2 weeks went by and we was going faster and faster, she introduced me to all of her family....I already knew her parents but this was grandparents, aunties uncles and cousins....we got closer, we was kissing and had that look in our eyes of love....I don't know if its just me but have you ever kissed someone and when they look into your eyes afterwards they make a little noise with a smile? I think that's a sign they are falling in love? Please correct me if I'm wrong, I would love to hear people's thoughts, so then the next week, her daughter gets very upset about things easily and plays up alot not listening to her mom, they go speak to a teacher and the daughter says she wants her mom to be single, we belive its effected her how fast everything is moving, then 2 days later my gf turns round to me and says she's trying really hard and wants us to carry on but she's struggling with everything going on with her daughter and she's been thinking about her ex alot like she isn't over him, another 2 days go by and she breaks up with me, saying she can't get over her ex, she still is in love with him and its not fair on me or her to be in this situation. She needs time to focus on herself and her daughter and needs to be alone. I understand this now because I don't want to be 2nd best to a guy, especially who treated her like dog poop, I need to give her time to realise what she needs to move away from him, she's made it very clear she doesn't want to go back to him now but also doesn't want me to wait for her. She said I'm the right person but wrong time, Going back to that noise she made after we kissed, do you think she realised she was falling for me got scared because she still loves that guy and isn't sure what she wants? There is something more deep I can't put my finger on about this I hope someone can understand this more for me and thank you for taking time to read this
She needs space
Relationship Stress / by hardywoo85
Last post
 July 5th, 2022
...See more I find it hard to give her space, she broke up with me Saturday night, we properly talked on Sunday morning, didn't message each other all day but seen her this morning when we drop the kids to school, we chatted a little and it was awkward to say goodbye without hugging or kissing, I could tell she was weird about it too, do I still give her that space? But I really want to message her telling her I think she's made a mistake, she told me her parents and her best friend told her she's stupid for doing it, I just want her back
She broke up with me because she still loves her ex
Relationship Stress / by hardywoo85
Last post
 July 3rd, 2022
...See more Thank you for taking time to read this, I am devastated all because I couldn't help myself and went too fast with this girl, I've known her for 2 years, our kids are in the same school together and I finally told her I liked her, she was on and off with her toxic ex and the day after she split up with him for good this time we went for a walk in the park, just as friends, a week later it was another walk and watch a movie round mine, few days later we gave the kids a play date round hers, then it became every 2 to 3 days we was doing stuff, 3 weeks later we made it official relationship, it was going good for nearly 4 weeks, besides her ex being an idiot messaging her alot even though she made it clear to him she's really happy with me, but it started to get to her, her daughter has been playing up alot and has told her teacher she wants her mom to be single plus the daughters dad also was playing up making things hard for my gf. She turned around to me and said she still has feelings for her ex but never wants to get back with him because he didn't treat her right, she just needs time to get over him, plus with how her daughter is she feels the best thing to do is be alone with her for a while but she admitted she really likes me alot, the timing just isn't right. I know I should just play it cool and give her the time but I am finding it really hard because I feel like I have fallen for her big time
Dont know what to do anymore
Relationship Stress / by hardywoo85
Last post
 August 20th, 2021
...See more We broke up 3 months ago she said she doesn't feel like its working we was together 7 months but before that we knew each other for a year we became best friends Weve tried to stay best friends in these 3 months But she keeps trying to get some distance and I am struggling but when I finally back off she shows interest again. We end up spending 3 days together then she realises we shouldn't be doing this so wants to distance again and just be friends.....this has happened 4 times now. I'm getting so confused now, the last time this happened was my birthday, I went round to her house, she didn't get me a big bday present but she put out some food and alcohol and nice led lights on the table with a birthday cake with candles.....I'm 36 and never expected this especially from "just friends" its the nicest thing a friend has ever done for me we then spend the next few days constantly together and now yesterday we spoke on the phone and she said we can't have sex again and spend nights together again.......like she's said the other 3 times......and now today she has ignored my message all day. I'm so in love with her and she knows this I just can't move on because when I even try to think about it she shows me some slight interest again, I don't know what to do
Dating app or not? To try help move on?
Relationship Stress / by hardywoo85
Last post
 September 9th, 2021
...See more My ex broke up with me 3 months ago but 2 weeks ago we spent 3 days together but she still didn't want anything after that, she just wants to be friends, I have struggled and still love her after we was together 7 months and she was the best friend I've always wanted. I believe she won't ever change her mind. How much I can't stop thinking of her and want to always be in contact with her to put my mind off her is it a good idea to join a dating app to talk to others to try to move on or should I not?
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