Almost made a huge mistake
Almost made a huge mistake. On a night out with some friends, a few too many drinks later, there was conversation about some very obvious sexual tension between myself and an acquaintance that we’ve felt for a while. We are both in relationships, we don’t know each other that well, and nothing has ever happened or been directly spoken about until that point. Sober, I would never have even brought it up. We’ve been around each other plenty of times without drinking and while the awkward tension was there, it was simply that. There was never any attempt to get to know each other better, because neither of us are single. I can’t speak for him, but I would go on my way and think nothing more of it, until the next time we were around each other. It was never more than that. I’m genuinely not that girl. However, drinking (a lot), and hearing him admit that it was mutual, it sparked something. I do not want to be with him, it’s not that deep, it was just an attraction that I never intended to act on.
Honestly if it wasn’t for him being a decent person, I could have ruined my entire relationship. Nothing happened, thanks to him being a good person, but it was very difficult to walk away.
I don’t understand what is wrong with me. I love my partner and this has never happened before in the 10+ years that we’ve been together. I feel so guilty, as I should. Nothing happened other than a conversation but the fact that I even did that, I know is wrong. I have thought about telling him what happened, because I believe in honesty, but it’s only going to hurt him? I’ll likely never see this person again, due to the fact that he is moving away, and maybe that played a part in the situation, last chance to say what has previously been unsaid. I don’t know. Knowing I’ll never see him again is fine, it doesn’t bring up any sad feelings, which is why the whole situation is so confusing to me. I can’t stress enough that it wasn’t deep at all.
I don’t know what exactly I am looking for by posting this, I know that it was wrong, but I also know that it was only skin deep, and that I’m with the person I want to be with. Can it be put down to a bump in the road?
@bestPenguin946 Guilt is not useful. Nothing happened. What is the one variable that could have f up your life? Alcohol. Might want to consider not getting so drunk. Otherwise return to your life as it was before this incident.
I’m currently on the receiving end of my partner flirting and speaking about cheating on me. It hurts, BUT the fact you’re acknowledging it, understand the consequences gives me hope that you wouldn’t do it again.
im struggling because now I compare myself, I wake up every day and I’m hurting because I know 80% of what he did… I don’t think if I ever caught him he would have realised what he was doing is wrong.
he’s trying to change now, and I’m giving him the opportunity to prove himself…
people make mistakes, it’s the lessons you learn and what you do moving forward that matter.
people say honesty is the best policy, but please don’t let your partner hurt like I did. If they ever find out or ask, be open and honest, but don’t cause them to hurt if you know you will never do it again.
once I found out one thing, I went searching for every little detail and it has absolutely killed me. To the point where I have so little self worth it’s taken me to extremely dark places mentally.
Please be proud that you feel bad and you recognise your mistakes and use every day moving forward to do better. That’s all you can do.
you’re not a bad person, so please just take it as an opportunity to grow and to pull your loved one closer x
