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rrptz19 July 12th

constant what ifs are running through my brain right now. I’m in a relationship of almost 2 years. I love him he loves me we are very healthy and supportive. But before dating he used to be a player as some may say. Many girls wanted him and he wanted many girls. Things have of course changed. but why can’t my mind settle and move on? why am i so scared of getting cheated on? he’s so good to me. why am i scared he’s betraying me? how can i fix it? i’ve tried it all.

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toughTiger6481 July 12th

@rrptz19

Honestly there is no guarantee fro anyone that someone might do something .... Player or not .... I think people often have a simple view of cheating ... there can be many reasons

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201910/the-8-main-reasons-why-people-cheat

most have to do with not getting what you want out of the relationship.  if you read the reasons the polls say is top reasons... you can see many are from issues in relationship.... for those who do end up with someone who gets alot of interest our insecurities about the relationship can wear thin on some.

Be up front ... share your feelings but have faith in your relationship .... if things are not going as well work on it do not wait until a mistake is made.