toxic relationship
i have been in this relationship not for long and it is already taking a hard toll on me, i do everything for this boy. i love him how he wants and needs to be loved i do everything for him. im changing myself for him like how i dress, look, and what i do for activities because its not his “type” and we are romantic here and there then out of nowhere he stops talking to me calls me horrible stuff tells me to leave him and to stop talking to him and says a lot of hurtful things to me i always ask him why he never has a reason and im so stupid for telling him i dont wanna leave, he always comes back after an hour like that apologizing and he wants us to work and he loves me so much and never wants to lose me. im already losing my happiness and my friends and who i am and i cant seem to leave him i love and care about him too much to do that i just want him and me to work out
@sociableKitten2377 hi there!
i hear you. it sounds like you are trying very hard to please your partner and in the end he is saying hurtful things to you. i can tell how much that is hurting you and that you want things to get better and that you love him a very lot.
@sociableKitten2377
If you re-read your own post --- you are changing clothes /hobbies / your self to please him/ losing yourself and friends and getting just small parts in return... that is not love at least not on his part..
Are these fits of anger or name calling when he is not getting everything he wants because that is all narcissist type patterns
believe me run do not walk away from someone like this ..... do it before he isolates you from others and perhaps starts abusing you.
you are right, he does get mad when im not doing what he wants. i do need to run away.. i cant keep up with this i dont want to start going back down the depression hole
@sociableKitten2377
You deserve much better and you will find it the best way to proceed is be your own best friend and champion and move on.
@sociableKitten2377
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Hey there, I think you have the answers to your questions..you know what to do and somewhere you are afraid to take the step..so just to let you know we all are here to hold you up so go ahead and take the step. You are your own person and if someone can't accept the way you are then it's them who have issues and not you.
You are beautiful in your own way never forget that..🥰🥰