im rlly struggling
so at the beginning of 2nd semester of last school year I met this guy and we hit it off really well....my parents met him and was not very found of him and told me to just keep him as a friend beacuse we were moving to a new state and beacuse they were not very found of him....so i texted the guy and told him and he said some things that made my parents even more not to like him but me and the guy just agreed to keep doing what we were doing but no more than that....so we did for about a week and things changed we started to become more than just friends and i kept it a secret from my parents and then at the end of the summer they kinda found out about what was going on and blocked him on everything on my phone but me and him found ways to still talk to each other and keep this secret reltionship all summer...we would sneck around and see each other....he would sneck into my grandparents house at night (because that was were i was living until my house was ready in my new state) and then the day before my birthday...on august 9th my parents found out about everything....literally everything.....it has put a wrench in my family and now i have no communication with him at all and me and my family are in a really bad spot becuase of my actions and his actions.....my mom does not want to spend time with me, she does not want to just have ourt little talks that we used to because i have berayed her.....my dad is trying to help the situation but he is at a loss of what to do as well....my mom has always helped me with my college tours and getting me ready to go to college (i am a senior) but she wants nothing to do with it anymore and is just letting me do it all.....i am not ready for all of that.....i just am at a loss of what to do......i know it will take a long long time for my parents to ever trust me again and ever move on from what happened...i knew they will forgive me but they will never forget what has happened...i just need help trying to find my feet with all of this....i am really really struggling
@creativeFarm5925
Have you put yourself in their shoes? imagined you were your mom?
Betrayed and lied to is not something people get over easily ....what would you have done differently if you could have a summer do over... there may be more times in life where they do not like the person that you do... at first.
it takes time to see why their child likes this person etc. But the route taken was hide and lie and pretend they were so stupid they would not find out...i will say now the chances of them seeing good in this boy are ZERO.... your chance to change minds has passed.
Save yourself years of struggles face difficult situations and discussions head on talk and work it out ... you made it clear you do not respect her judgement so why should she want to help you with other items that she feels if you do not agree you will ignore and do what you want.
your mom will forgive you eventually and im sorry you lost contact with that person, but your mom had trust in you. you can probably gain some of it back maybe have a talk with her
Same exactly the SAME GODAMN CASE HERE TOO. Believe me, i absolutely know how it feels. One thing you should do is, let time pass. Youre mum loves you and will again havethat bond with you. Dont strech her okay dear? And remember. Youre parents know what you have loved from childhood. What things match your standards and mentality. So if they dont like a person...STAYTHE *** AWAY. Just do it. I bwlieve in you. These tough times will pass and surely you will have a partner appreciated by your parents too in the future. Proud of you for understanding the feelings of your parents. Not many can do it. All the best in yourlife sweetheart.