Venting
Tw: possible stalking/obsessive behavior/ codependent personality
So I needed to vent so I took it here, my fiancé's ex girlfriend keeps I guess you can say "stalking" his social sites, because he has blocked numerous accounts on one, and a few more recently. Just last night his ex was found lurking on his social site, on this social site he does not make any posts or share anything publicly unless it's through the direct messages. So putting two and two together, I believe that she was trying to get back into his life. However this is the same person that also told him to "leave her alone" when he caught on to what she was trying to do again, which upset her and they blocked each other. He has stayed true to his word not only as my partner, but for himself. She was a negative person, so he made it known he did not want her back around before blocking. Here's where my problem lies, she is also the same person that was messaging my daughter's bio behind my current fiancé's back. This is not the first time that she has tried this attempt, so I knew from before that I could not trust her. Therefore do not want her in my daughter's life nor mine. The reason why I say she has obsessive personality is because of the numerous accounts that she has made just to reach out to him and honestly I have no insecurities when it comes to her, an I know my fiancé loves me and our daughter, but I'm getting agitated because she does not stay gone and flow through with his wishes. I do not want to be the person that goes into her direct messages like teenager level and confront her an ask her intentions. Any tips would be nice, and some encouraging words are welcomed🥹
@PhoenixButterfly97
Any confronting will often escalate the situation. I think blocking her as I am sure you and BF have done and perhaps letting people around you like friends know in case she tries contacting them... She Wants a reaction a confrontation.
when it gets to a point when she is not getting thru she will either move on or do something that you could turn her in for stalking like showing up places etc. document items and should she goes farther you will show a pattern of stalking issues.
@toughTiger6481 Thank you so much for this piece of advice, we will continue to not let her get to us and continue to live ourselves maintaining the peace we worked so hard to get. Thank you again for this it means a lot that you took the time out of your day to write this 💓
@PhoenixButterfly97 wow! That's not good. And to go through your daughter is just so wrong. Have you tried screenshots and collecting evidence to go to the police. This woman may have problems the police might be able to help her with, but still she has no right to do this. I hope you can report it somehow. Good luck ❤