Unexpected Breakup
Hello!
Last Wednesday, I experienced a break up out of the blue. I was COMPLETELY BLINDSIDED. He and I had been together for about 9 months, zero fights. I met him after work and he looked troubled, out of character for him. He said something had been bothering him for a week and he needed to talk to me. He went on to say that I had made him a better man, that I had treated him so well and I had done nothing wrong. He said he was afraid for me to see the bad parts of him. He said there would never be a time when he wouldn't answer a text or call from me and if my family ever needed a thing he'd be there. It was like an out of body experience, very confusing. I've talked about it with friends and they are unsure how he went from talking about a future together, wedding and kids, to this. Only explanation people have come up with is that he got scared of the future and hopefully just needs time to think. His mother says that he hasn't really talked about it since he broke up with me and seems to have retreated into himself. I sent him a text last night telling him that while I am hurt that I still care about him and want to help with whatever he is dealing with if he wants to talk. No answer Thoughts? I'm praying so hard that he gets help from me or someone else.
@practicalPlum3423
Hey there, my name is FrenchMarbles! 😊 I saw your post and wanted to reach out. I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough and unexpected situation. Dealing with a sudden break-up after having a positive and loving relationship for nine months must be incredibly challenging. 😔 Feeling confused and hurt is entirely normal when someone you deeply care about ends things seemingly out of nowhere. Trying to understand what led to this change in their feelings can be really puzzling and overwhelming.
Your friends' guess about his fear of the future could be one possibility, but it's important to remember that we can't fully grasp someone else's thoughts and emotions. People have struggles and challenges, sometimes needing time and space to process their feelings. You've already shown incredible strength by contacting him and offering support during this difficult time. That's a compassionate and kind gesture on your part. 🤗
However, it's crucial to remember that you can't control his actions or emotions. It's natural to want to help, but ultimately, he'll have to find his way to cope with whatever he's going through. In the meantime, don't forget to take care of yourself too. Allow yourself to process your emotions and consider talking to friends, family, or even one of our amazing listeners for extra support. 💛
Healing takes time, and it's okay to experience a mix of emotions during this period. Be patient and try not to put too much pressure on finding all the answers immediately.
There is a concept called betrayal trauma.he may be simply going thru something deep and is afraid that if he shares he will face rejection,so he getting into his shell.
