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Trust issues am i right or wrong? Please help

User Profile: convivialSail864
convivialSail864 December 5th, 2024

Hi im going through a tough time at the minute , my partner has told some silly lies at the begining of our relationship she said she hadnt been in contact with her ex partner , i found out 6 months later that she had been in contact with him by phone calls and texts , i dont know what they were about but she has reassured me that it was nothing , i really want to believe her and trust her but she has broke our trust and me coming from a relationship before her which i was cheated on makes its so hard for me to believe what she is telling me , i really do love her more than anything and would do anything for her , i just have this part of me that finds it so hard to believe that she is telling me the truth , we talked about a polygraph test last night which made her angry and sad , part of me thinks its because she is lying and part of me things it is because it is an insult to her , she gives me no reason now days to believe she is cheating on me … its just the past i am so focused on and cant seem to get past it , it really is starting to affect my mental health ( anxiety , depression) , please help i love her so much


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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 December 5th, 2024

@convivialSail864

In the beginning of any relationship sometimes people omit things or say they are not doing something that may upset their current partner.  If this is in the past and yet you do not want to go forward but instead think of insulting things like polygraph tests seems a bit severe to pay for a test session for what, other then punishment. 

Trust is something you can work on without making it a constant reminder.  IF you love her you find ways to work on your relationship and trust issues and not hold this over her head.   Is being Right worth being Alone?    Being treated as always guilty will drive a partner away faster then almost anything. 


User Profile: convivialSail864
convivialSail864 OP December 7th, 2024

Thank you for the reply