Trust issues
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months. She broke up with me for a few days when we were about a month into the relationship, and I went to a porn cam site and used the site for a private show. We got back together, I didn’t tell her, and she found out a month ago. Since then, she hasn’t trusted me. Every argument ends up going back to that. She always tells me I’m lying about everything and stuff. I don’t blame her for the way she feels. The problem is I’ve been completely open and honest with every other aspect
of my life. I don’t know how to move forward. I love her to death. 5 months is not a long time but we’ve been through a lot together. I really don’t want things to end. I just feel completely lost with how to handle this. Any advice is welcome.
@bubblewheel3543
Hey man i'd like to help you with this , im going through the same shet , i can try helpin you get over it , count me in !!
@bubblewheel3543
I think this is a good example of how we define what happens on a break.... I find it odd so many if they get back together now defines the break period as time together....
Did she ask you for anything done while on break? If you had confessed do you think she would say "ok" and there would be trust then? was it what was done or not telling her? Some women will claim it is about not knowing but it is more about a porn site in their mind IMO.
... it was a decision you made maybe thinking she was gone and it was none of her business... now you may feel guilty and like you must fix it ...
imagine if she did something like that ...what would make it right for you ?
@toughTiger6481 Yes, she says that while the action does bother her a lot, it’s the hiding of it that is the real problem. And the thing is I don’t disagree with her. It’s hard for me to imagine if the roles were reversed, because I understand why I did it. So I would be more understanding and be able to move past it.
@bubblewheel3543
I think it is playing a no win game sometimes when we do things that our others may not like
so we keep to ourselves and when it comes out and it often does ........they Say it was the secret but ..... we never know since they dislike the item too. All you can do know is apologize and be honest that you were afraid she would be upset about the item... so you were trying to spare her that...
