The Last Days Before His Departure: Seeking Understanding and Healing
In the last few days before he left for military training, my ex-partner started showing a more vulnerable side, one he rarely revealed before. Though he was usually very reserved, during those final days, he seemed more in need of support and comfort, as if he sought an emotional refuge in our conversations. He shared his fears and concerns, and every time we spoke, I tried to encourage him and show him that I’d always be there for him.
Before he left, he promised he would talk to me when he got back home, as a way of reassuring us that our connection wouldn’t be lost despite the distance and time. However, after receiving one of my messages of support, he chose to block me, leaving me with a mixture of shock, disbelief, and deep pain.
Now, as I try to move forward, I wonder how to process and let go of those last moments we shared. I know his decision to step back wasn’t from a lack of love but from fear and a desire to protect me from his own insecurities. Even so, the thoughts and emotions keep returning, and it’s hard to find a way to move on without constantly thinking of him. Has anyone else felt something similar? Any advice or words of support would be so helpful right now.
@philosophicalTriangle7553
Oh. I'm so sorry your relationship was ended in that way. That's so rough. I can totally understand why you feel so much pain and loss. To be cut off like that, with no explanation or ending says way more about the other person than it says about you.
You've suddenly lost something that was very important to you. You might want to look into the stages of grief. It might help you understand how this loss is affecting you.
I feel for you. There's going to be lots of sadness and misery that nothing I can say will take away. Hugs and best wishes for the time when you feel a bit better.
@philosophicalTriangle7553He shared his feelings as this was a big move in his life ...
Training for all military is hard and when a close friend went through it. That person told me that some messages did not have the effect people who well meaning thought they did. Under stress and maybe even questioning himself about if this was correct choice some messages were conflicting for them,
I would agree he could have done something other then blocking you or explained but maybe he does not know how to share more. I have blocked people who when i was going through things i just could not meet their expectations of responses. Sometimes we need to not over analyze things said or any sign ... give him time to deal with his things. do not assign what you think he feels or thinks.
