Relationship: he cheated
I found out my ex boyfriend had been cheating on me throughout the entire relationship w/ more than one girl. I am currently working on cutting him off.
does anyone have any advice on how to stop feeling so self-conscious or insecure after seeing the girls he cheated with?
I keep thinking back to all the texts I read and what I know they said about me and what he said to them. I don’t know how to stop thinking about it.
also if anyone had any advice on how to cut him off completely, since I am having a hard time completely cutting contacts.
@Prettiestgirl I think cheating is a very common thing in this day and age, at least from what I see around me. I won’t guarantee you that the next person you meet will not cheat. Sometimes, you can’t convict men until you find evidence. But I know how to get out, I've had experiences similar to yours. My approach is very efficient but a little crazy. I want you to make friends and meet more men. Maybe you were sad at first because you felt like he was present in every man you saw. But it doesn't matter, keep looking and find that interesting guy. I believe he will bring you a different feeling and clear your sad mood. Remember, don’t be afraid to build new relationships, there are a lot of bad people in the world and everyone is down on their luck. There is still a long, long time in life.
I’ve never heard that approach, and it’s definitely something I’ve struggled with. I still tend to think of my ex fondly bc we “shared” so many similar experiences and had fun memories.
ive tried to go out with some guys but most are just quick to want to hookup which isn’t what I’m looking for. But you’re totally right, maybe a part of my hyped my ex up too much or gave him too much credit for being “different”.
I’ll just have to find a balance between going out more and keeping myself safe and away from potential hookup situations which I feel like would hurt my mental health more right now.
thank you though, that’s actually great advice!