Missing him no contact
Hi all,
been feeling really down lately and have been missing my boyfriend during our no contact break… he decided he wanted a break up after 4 1/2 years and i offered the alternative for just a break until after i’m back from my home country. I thought he’d wish me merry christmas or something but he hasn’t reached out… its been over a week since we’ve last spoken to each other and i’m missing talking to him more and more each day. I know I should put him in the back of my head but It’s hard, I’m trying to honour his need for time and space but can’t help but feel overwhelmed and unwanted.
during the day, I feel okay since i’m with family but at night I find it hard to sleep because I’m thinking about him. About how he’s doing without me, is he okay, is he having a great christmas, things like that. I hope we can work things out when i’m back which is next month but I know that it’s not on me to break the no contact to wish him a merry christmas or a happy new years. So im definitely keeping my silence and giving him the space.
it just hurts because everything was so normal and happy before and he decided to make that decision just before I leave for the holidays :(( i’m trying my best to enjoy my time with family but really am getting in my head about things now. Its hard to not get upset when it came so suddenly… any advice and support would be appreciated :(
@intuitivePenguin4529
I think anyone in your shoes would feel the same to wonder how they are doing ... do they miss me too... expect a contact on a holiday etc.
When you offered this no contact alternative did you just expect one or both would cave and break over? if you have only a short time until you return perhaps you should honor the no contact and work on what you want in future and you instead of worrying about his time working on himself.
Thank you.. you’re right I need to focus on myself. I just have these moments where I overthink and get overwhelmed. I’m hoping this no contact will really turn out for the best either way.