MIL

My bf thinks I have a problem with his mom.

I don’t. I really like her so far.

I think it’s subconscious. I’ve been hurt a lot by other people’s moms over the years, as silly as that might sound. Most of my exes moms (I’ve only had a few) were super toxic or just straight up not very nice. I tried in past relationships to win them over and they were usually too self absorbed to even notice or care. I’ve had close friends with really fake moms too lol. They would be cool to your face but gossip about you as soon as you left. And my stepmom takes the cake with very literally being the most horrible, hateful person I’ve ever met. I have a good relationship with my mom though. I don’t dislike all moms obviously. I’m just scared of rejection. My most recent ex’s mom REALLY verbally attacked me when her son and I broke up. She said I needed Jesus in more ways than one.

Anyway, how do I let my guard down with my bf’s mom? She’s been nothing but very nice and supportive so far. She said she’s never seen her son so happy and even gave me a birthday present. She includes me in the family group chats. I feel like she really cares about me as a person which is really sweet :3 …I don’t want to punish her or my bf because of my past pains. And I fear I do it subconsciously